I would like to know if it haram to have a boy as a friend
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I would like to know if it haram to have a boy as a friend just
friend nothing more (not boyfriend) a friend who i will be able to talk 2 who
is a boy
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haraam to have a boyfriend?
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
absolutely no harm and no sin in Islam if a believing girl wishes to befriend one
amongst the womenfolk, or even a ‘boy’ in Islam, provided that the boy is a
mehram relative of the girl like her husband, her brother, her father, her
uncle, her children, her nephews, etc.
But if the boy is not a mehram relative, it would not be permissible nor
would it behove a woman who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, to have any
sort of ‘friendship’ with him. There is
no harm if one talks or deals with them for an absolutely genuine need, but to
form a casual ‘friendship’ or any sort
of casual relationship with non-mehram members of the opposite sex would be
absolutely impermissible in Islam.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:
5 This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful
unto you and yours is lawful unto them.
(Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are
believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your
time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness
nor secret intrigues. If anyone
rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the
ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).
does not permit the casual friendship between a non-mehram man and woman, as
this sort of friendships are the first steps which sow the seeds of destructions
of morality in society, which Islam vehemently tries to protect. The biggest evidence of this degradation of
morality can be seen in the societies which have encouraged and allowed these
casuals non-mehram relationships to flourish!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 53:
If you (the noble companions of the Prophet) have to ask the wives
of the Prophet for something, ask for it from behind a curtain. This is a better way for the purity of
your, as well as their hearts.
command is for some of the most noble and best people who ever lived on this
planet earth; the companions of the
Prophet, and the chaste and noble wives
of the Prophet of Allah (saws). Allah
commands the companions of the Prophet that if they have to ask for something
from even the noble and chaste wives of the Prophet (saws), they should do so
from behind a veil or a curtain,
because this way is better and purer for both, the companions and the
wives of the Prophet (saws). No
people could have controlled their emotions and feared Allah more than the
noble companions and the chaste wives of the Prophet; but even to such noble
souls, Allah has commanded that it is purer and better that if they need to
talk to the wives of the Prophet, they should do so from behind a curtain!
of the Holy Quran, and the various authentic narrations of the Messenger of
Allah (saws), with the exception of marriage, it is absolutely forbidden for a
non-mehram woman to have any sort of
casual friendship with a non-mehram man.
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me alone.
Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,