IF A WIFE REFUSSES TO HAVE SEX EVEN WHEN SHE IS CLEAN & SAY THAT SHE IS NOT INTERESTED WITHOUT ANY GENIUNE PROBLEM.
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IF A WIFE REFUSSES TO HAVE SEX EVEN WHEN SHE IS CLEAN & SAY THAT SHE IS NOT INTERESTED WITHOUT ANY GENIUNE PROBLEM, THEN WHAT DOES QURAN & SUNNAH SAY ABOUT IT. AND IF THE HUSBAND DOESN`T WANT TO DO ZINAH DUE TO ALLAH`S FEAR, ONLY OPT FOR ADULT MOVIES TO RELAX HIMSELF, THEN IS THIS PERMISSIBLE?
is there any ristriction in Islam for the no. of having sex in a month?
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Your Question: IF A WIFE REFUSSES TO HAVE SEX EVEN WHEN SHE IS CLEAN & SAY THAT SHE IS NOT INTERESTED WITHOUT ANY GENIUNE PROBLEM, THEN WHAT DOES QURAN & SUNNAH SAY ABOUT IT.
The believing men and women whom Allah Subhanah has blessed to be bonded in the sacred institution of marriage, have certain rights towards each other in their marriage. And one of the biggest rights of marriage is that the couple may enjoy conjugal relations with each other to their hearts desire. Unless the wife has a legal and valid Shariah reason for not allowing the husband to have intercourse with her (menses, post child-birth, while fasting in Ramadan, etc.), there are no conditions or circumstances when either the husband or the wife may refuse the invitation of the other.
Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife." The companions asked: O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded."
Related by Ahmad and Muslim.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3257 Narrated by Talq ibn Ali
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man calls his wife to satisfy his desire she must go to him even if she is occupied at the oven."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.460 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the Angels will curse her till morning."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.122 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "If a woman spends the night deserting her husband's bed (does not sleep with him), then the Angels send their curses on her till she comes back (to her husband)."
Your Question: AND IF THE HUSBAND DOESN`T WANT TO DO ZINAH DUE TO ALLAH`S FEAR, ONLY OPT FOR ADULT MOVIES TO RELAX HIMSELF, THEN IS THIS PERMISSIBLE?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Muminoon verses 1-11:
1 The Believers must (eventually) win through
2 Those who humble themselves in their prayers;
3 Who avoid vain talk;
4 Who are active in deeds of charity;
5 Who scrupulously guard their modesty (private parts),
6 Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or (the captives) whom their right hands possess; for (in their case) they are free from blame.
7 But those whose desires exceed those limits, are transgressors!
8 Those who faithfully observe their trust and their covenants;
9 And who (strictly) guard their prayers
10 Those will be the heirs
11 Who will inherit
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter24 Surah Noor verse 30:
O Prophet, enjoin the believing men to restrain their gaze, and guard their private parts. This is a more righteous way for them. Allah has knowledge of whatever they do.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go near zina (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4886 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
That he heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) say: The eye commits zina, and the palm of the hand, the foot, the body, the tongue and private part of the body confirm it or deny it.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.260 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
I have not seen a thing resembling 'lamam' (minor sins) than what Abu Huraira narrated from the Prophet (saws) who said "Allah has written for the children of Adan their share of adultery which he commits inevitably. The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a forbidden thing), the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it."
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 36 Surah Ya-Seen verse 65:
65 That Day shall We set a seal on their mouths. But their hands will speak to Us and their feet bear witness to all that they did.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 41 Surah Ha-Meem verses 19-23:
19 On the Day that the enemies of Allah will be gathered together to the Fire they will be marched in ranks.
20 At length when they reach the (Fire) their hearing, their sight, and their skins will bear witness against them as to (all) their deeds.
21 They will say to their skins: "Why bear ye witness against us?" They (their skins) will say: "Allah hath given us speech, (He) Who giveth speech to everything: He created you for the first time and unto Him were ye to return.
22 "Ye did not seek to hide yourselves lest your hearing, your sight, and your skins should bear witness against you! But ye did think that Allah knew not many of the things that ye used to do!
23 "But this thought of yours which ye did entertain concerning your Lord hath brought you to destruction, and (now) have ye become of those utterly lost!"
Although in legal terminology zina would constitute the actual penetration of the male organ into the female organ, the Messenger of Allah (saws) warned the believers regarding the minor zina of the eyes, hands, legs, etc. Not only is the evil act of zina prescribed as absolutely forbidden in Islam, every path or every way that leads one to this evil path is also declared as forbidden! Such is the gravity of this abomination of zina, that Allah Subhanah commands the believers in the Quran: Do not even go near zina!!!
Thus if one intentionally sees and watches fahisha (indecency), it would constitute zina of the eyes; if one derives pleasure from talks of fahisha, it would constitute zina of the ears and mouth, if one touches or goes towards something or someone with the intention of fahisha, it would constitute zina of the hands and the legs! Although there is no prescribed punishment for the zina of the eyes, mouth, ears, hands and feet in the life of this world, if one dies without seeking taubah and repentance from their Lord, he will be held severely accountable for these acts of minor zina in the Presence of their Majestic Lord in the Hereafter. The abomination of masturbation is a sin and an evil act, and the believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day must strive to absolutely abstain from this and all evil.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:
33 Say (O Prophet (saws)): The things that my Lord hath indeed (absolutely) forbidden (declared haraam) are: shameful deeds whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.
Under absolutely no circumstances and conditions would the abomination and evil of fashisha (shameful or indecent deeds) ever be permissible for a believer in Shariah! None whatsoever!
Your Question: is there any ristriction in Islam for the no. of having sex in a month?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 222-223:
222 They ask thee concerning women's courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution; so keep away from women in their courses and do not approach them (for sexual intercourse) until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves ye may approach them in any manner time or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.
223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, there is absolutely no restriction in Shariah regarding the number of times a couple united in the sacred bond of marriage may enjoy conjugal relations with each other..
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,