With a wife who blame me always tell me bad word.
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you tell what should i do ?with a wife who blame me always tell me bad word and
and dont respect me.
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What to do with abusive wife
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 34:
34
Men are the protectors and
maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and
because they support them from their means.
Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and
guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their
chastity, their husband’s honor, property, etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him)
was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her
husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not
go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of
which he disapproves."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Had it been
permissible that a person may prostrate himself before another, I would have
ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband.’
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a
woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her
chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.28 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
The Prophet (saws) said: "I was shown
the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were
ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in
Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?)
He (saws) replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are
ungrateful for the favors and the good done to them. If you have always been
good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her
liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you!"
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, as much as Allah and
His Messenger (saws) have time and time again Commanded and Guided the husbands
to love, honor, cherish, and deal with kindness, tenderness, patience, justice,
and mercy to those under their authority (their wives, their children,
etc.)……Islam guides that one of the absolutely obligatory duties of a righteous
and believing wife, if indeed she fears Allah and the Last Day and desires
entry into the Realms of Paradise in the Hereafter….is that she is devoutly
obedient to all the lawful commands of her husband.
If the husband sincerely fears Allah and strives to
fulfill all his obligatory duties in marriage but finds oneself bonded in
marriage with a woman who cannot bring herself to honor, respect and obey the
lawful commands of her husband, but rather finds her constantly dishonoring and
abusing him, the husband is well within his rights in Islam to separate from
such a disobedient and abusive wife through a divorce, and there would be no
sin upon him.
For those who wish to exercise the option of ‘divorce’,
Islam guides that just as two people who once chose to unite in the sacred bond
of marriage with love, and mercy, and honor, and kindness, and generosity…..if
indeed they wish to separate from each other through divorce, they should fear
Allah their Lord and separate with mercy, honor, kindness, generosity and
liberality…..that would be akin to piety and righteousness in the Sight of
Allah Subhanah.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister