I am interested to get marriadge with a non muslim girl who is agree to be a muslim.
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I am interested to get marriadge with a non muslim girl who is agree to be a
muslim is it right step while my mother is searching other muslim girl to me
for marriage.
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Answer:
Marry with parents consent
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad
(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved brother in Islam, there are two issues in your
questions:
Ref: Issue #1: Is it
legal in Islam to marry a non-muslim (mushrik) girl after she reverts to Islam?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 221:
221 Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters) until they believe;
a slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman even though she
allure you. Nor marry (your girls) to
unbelievers until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than un
unbeliever even though he allure you.
Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the fire. But Allah beckons by His grace to the Garden
(of Bliss) and forgiveness and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may
celebrate His praise.
If the disbelieving (mushrik) girl you wish to marry
reverts to Islam, she would be legally considered a muslim; and every single
right that is due to a muslim will be accorded to her in full. Thus it would be
absolutely lawful and permissible in Shariah for a believer to marry her.
Ref: Issue # 2: Is
it right to marry a woman without or against the consent of one’s parents?
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24:
Your
Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him
Alone! Treat your parents with
great kindness; if either or both of
them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and
pray, “O our Lord, be merciful
to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my
childhood.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah
Luqman verse 14:
14 And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in years twain
was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to thy
parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 46 Surah
Ahqaaf verses 15-17:
15 We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: in pain did his
mother bear him and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the (child)
to his weaning is (a period of) thirty months.
At length when he reaches the age of full strength and attains forty
years he says "O my Lord! grant me that I may be grateful for Thy favor
which Thou hast bestowed upon me and upon both my parents and that I may work
righteousness such as Thou mayest approve; and be gracious to me in my
issue. Truly have I turned to Thee and
truly do I bow (to Thee) in Islam."
16 Such are they from whom We shall accept the best of their deeds and
pass by their ill deeds: (they shall be) among the Companions of the Garden: a
promise of truth which was made to them (in this life).
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated by Abu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah
(saws), what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.290 Narrated by Abu Bakra
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Shall I
inform you of the biggest of the Great Sins?" They said, "Yes, O
Allah's Messenger (saws)!" He (saws) said, "To join partners in
worship with Allah, and to be undutiful to one's parents."
Dear and beloved Brother in Islam, one cannot
over-emphasize the significance and importance Islam has laid upon the
reverence and respect of one’s parents.
Such is the rank and status the Lord Most High has
accorded to parents in Islam that only after the rights due to Allah Subhanah and
His Messenger (saws), the biggest rights in all mankind are due to one’s
parents. Thus it is absolutely
obligatory upon the believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day to be
devoutly obedient to each and every lawful wish and command of their parents.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have
a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he
had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates
of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
To marry is considered a Sunnah in Islam, but to obey the
lawful commands of one’s parents is an absolutely obligatory Command of the
Lord Who Created.
Thus in conclusion brother, although it would be legal in
the Law for one to marry a girl without the consent of one’s parents, it would
definitely not be right to do so in the Sight of Allah Subhanah. Marry the
revert girl only and only if you are able to get the consent of your
parents….that would be piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other
guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured
of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister