I would like to know these hadith's are sahih or not
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Dear brother i
would like to know these hadith's are sahih or not
especially which
i highlighted in red.
awaiting for
your reply.
thanks.
A talk by Shaykh Abdullah Adhami
By
getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole
world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner,
your companion, and your best friend.
She
will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys
and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you
are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do
all she can for you;
When
you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you
the best advice. She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning
the first thing your eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be
with you, if for a moment she is not with you by her physical body, she will be
thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you
go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when
you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be
your whole world and you will be her whole world.
The
best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of
the spouses to each other is the Qur'anic verse which says: "they are your
garments and you are their garments" (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187). Indeed,
spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with
the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that
garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of
The
relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations:
the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion,
peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply
inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human
feelings is that: it is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, "And Allah
has made for you Mates (and Companions) of your own nature ..." (Surah Al
Nahl 16:72) Only our Almighty Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala in His Infinite Power,
Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and
blessed feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact Allah Subhanahu wa
Ta'ala is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe that these
feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide
humans to His existence as He says in the Qur'an, "And among His signs is
this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in
tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts:
verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Al Rum 30:21)
But
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala knows that the human heart is not a static entity, it
is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time.
Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly
cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous
happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital
love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained,
maintained, watered and nurtured.
Remember
that our Prophet Muhammad Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam had found the time to
go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. She out ran him but later
after she had gained some weight, he out ran her.
Remember
that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam took his wife to watch the young
Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances. The show of emotions is
necessary to keep the marital bond away from rusting and disintegrating .
Remember
that you will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for any emotions you
show to your wife as the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "one
would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even
the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife."
Never
underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your
wife's mouth, opening the car's door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet
Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her
up to ride the camel.
Try to
always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond
between you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the best guarantee that your own
marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with Allah Subhanahu wa
Ta'ala will always result in having more peace at home.
Remember
that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam gave glad tidings for those
couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi
wa'sallaam even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up
even by throwing cold water on his/her face.
Always
try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile
to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and
always remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "the
best of you are those who are best to their wives."
Finally,
it is common that spouses vow to love and honor their spouses until death do
them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It
is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well.
Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don't be like my
colleague who was unhappy about his wife's parents coming to visit for few
weeks. He candidly said to her "I don't like your parents."
Naturally, she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said " I
don't like yours either"... Also, it is not enough that you love her until
death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after
death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their
spouses (Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70) and offsprings.
The
best example in this regard is the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam whose
love for Khadija, his wife of 25 years extended to include all those she loved
and continued even after her death. It was many years after her death and he
never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send
portions of it to Khadija's family and friends and whenever he felt that the
visitor at the door might be Khadija's sister Hala, he would pray saying
"O Allah let it be Hala
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Answer:
Hadith clarification
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Clarification of quotation-1:
Remember that our
Prophet Muhammad Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam had found the time to go out to
the desert and race with his wife Aisha. She out ran him but later after she
had gained some weight, he out ran her.
There is indeed sufficient evidence in the authentic and
established Sunnah that the Messenger of Allah (saws) would spend quality time
with his wives, and there is also mention that he did race with his wife Hadrat
Aisha (r.a.); but to the best of our knowledge there is no mention in the
authentic and established Sunnah regarding the outcome of the race or the issue
of the weight of Hadrat Aisha (r.a.).
Clarification of quotation-2:
Remember that the
Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam took his wife to watch the young
Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.155 Narrated by Aisha
Allah's Messenger (saws) came to my house
while two girls were singing beside me the songs of Bu'ath (a story about the
war between the two tribes of the Ansar, i.e. Khazraj and Aus, before Islam.)
The Prophet (saws) reclined on the bed and turned his face to the other side.
Abu Bakr came and scolded me and said protestingly, "Instrument of the
Shaytaan in the presence of Allah's Messenger (saws)?" Allah's Messenger
(saws) turned his face towards him and said, "Leave them." When Abu
Bakr became inattentive, I waved the two girls to go away and they left. It was
the day of 'Id when negroes used to play with leather shields and spears.
Either I requested Allah's Messenger (saws) or he himself asked me whether I
would like to see the display. I replied in the affirmative. Then he (saws) let
me stand behind him and my cheek was touching his cheek and he (saws) was
saying, "Carry on, O Bani Arfida (i.e. negroes)!" When I got tired,
he (saws) asked me if that was enough. I replied in the affirmative and he
(saws) told me to leave.
Clarification of quotation-3:
Remember that you
will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for any emotions you show to your
wife as the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "one would be
rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food
that he puts in the mouth of his wife."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.263 Narrated by Abu Masud Al Ansari
The Prophet (saws) said, "When a Muslim
spends something on his family intending to receive Allah's reward, it is
regarded as Sadaqa for him."
Sahih Muslim Hadith 2181 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘Of the Dinar
you spend as a contribution in Allah's path, or to set free a slave, or as a
Sadaqah given to a needy, or to support your family, the one yielding the
greatest reward is that which you spent on your family.’
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 278 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘The most perfect
Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best
among you are those who behave best towards their wives.’
Clarification of quotation-4:
Never underestimate
the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth,
opening the car's door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu
'aliahi wa'sallaam used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride
the camel.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 5.522 Narrated by Anas bin Malik
We arrived at Khaibar, and when Allah helped
His Messenger (saws) to open the fort, the beauty of Safiya bint Huyai bin
Akhtaq whose husband had been killed while she was a bride, was mentioned to
Allah's Messenger (saws). The Prophet (saws) selected her for himself, and set
out with her, and when we reached a place called Sidd-as-Sahba, Safiya became
clean from her menses then Allah's Messenger (saws) married her. Hais (i.e. an
'Arabian dish) was prepared on a small leather mat. Then the Prophet (saws)
said to me, "I invite the people around you." So that was the
marriage banquet of the Prophet (saws) and Safiya. Then we proceeded towards
Clarification of quotation-5:
Remember that the
Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam gave glad tidings for those couples who
wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam
even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up even by
throwing cold water on his/her face.
Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh 2.23
Topic: One should wake up one's family for
tahajjud
Abu Hurairah reports that the Prophet (saws)
said: "May Allah bless the man who gets up during the night to pray and
wakes up his wife and who, if she refuses to get up, sprinkles some water on
her face. And may Allah bless the woman who gets up during the night to pray
and wakes up her husband and who, if he refuses sprinkles some water on his
face." The Prophet (saws) also said: "If a man wakes his wife and
prays during the night or they pray two rak'at together, they will be recorded
among those (men and women) who (constantly) make remembrance of Allah."
Related by Abu Dawud.
Clarification of quotation-6:
…..and always
remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "the best of
you are those who are best to their wives."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3252 Narrated by Aisha ; Abdullah ibn Abbas
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "The best
of you is he who is best to his ‘ahlihah’ (wives, family, etc.); and I am the
best among you to my ‘ahli’ (wives, family, etc.)"
Clarification of quotation-7:
The best example in
this regard is the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam whose love for Khadija,
his wife of 25 years extended to include all those she loved and continued even
after her death. It was many years after her death and he never forgot her and
whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send portions of it to
Khadija's family and friends and whenever he felt that the visitor at the door
might be Khadija's sister Hala, he would pray saying "O Allah let it be
Hala
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 5.164 Narrated by Aisha
I did not feel jealous of any of the wives of
the Prophet (saws) as much as I did of Khadija (although) she died before he
(saws) married me; for I often heard him mentioning her, and Allah had told him
to give her the good tidings that she would have a palace of Qasab (i.e. pipes
of precious stones and pearls in Paradise), and whenever he (saws) slaughtered
a sheep, he would send her women-friends a good share of it.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 5.168 Narrated by Abu Huraira
Narrated Aisha: ‘Once Hala bint Khuwailid,
Khadija's sister, asked the permission of the Prophet (saws) to enter. On that,
the Prophet (saws) remembered the way Khadija used to ask permission, and that
upset him. He (saws) said, "O
Allah! Hala!" So I became jealous and said, "What makes you remember
an old woman amongst the old women of Quraish an old woman (with a teethless
mouth) of red gums who died long ago, and in whose place Allah has given you
somebody better than her?" and he (saws) would
say, "Khadija was such-and-such, and from her I had children."
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Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
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