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i wanted to know if it is ok for me as a wife/daughter in law to prepare brake fast for the family member in state of post-sex impurity as my husband and father in law goes earliy in the morning to the office ..... hence after the intercourse at night we (i n my husband) sleep n do not bath after the act only when we get up in the morning. is it okay to prepare breakfast n then have a bath or vice versa ... or can i just perform the wadu n prepare brake fast n then go for a bath or ghusl please let me knw about it as soon as possible and i also wanted to know if there is any specific dua to say while taking ghusl for intercourse and menstruation please do let me knw.

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Answer:

Do chores after sex

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Ghusl or full bath for purity after sex is not obligatory for a person to be able to cook, or eat, or leave the house, or do any other deed except visiting the mosques, prayer, and the recitation of the Quran.

Although it is highly recommended that one purify oneself immediately after sexual intercourse, there is evidence and allowance in the Sunnah if one wishes to sleep, eat, or drink or do other chores before purifying oneself, one must at least do the ‘wudu’ or ablution.

If one does not perform the ghusl immediately after sex for any reason, it would be better and purer to perform the wudu (ablution) and go about ones chores or duties, and perform the ghusl later when one intends to pray or recite the Quran.

Sahih Muslim Hadith 603 Narrated by Aisha

Abdullah ibn AbdulQays said, "I asked Aisha about the Witr (prayer) of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and made mention of a hadith, then I said: ‘What did he (saws) do after having sexual intercourse? Did he take a bath before going to sleep or did he sleep before taking a bath?’ She said: ‘He (saws) did all these. Sometimes he (saws) took a bath and then slept, and sometimes he (saws) performed ablution only and went to sleep.’ I (the narrator) said: ‘Praise be to Allah Who has made things easy (for the believers in the deen).’

Your Question: also wanted to know if there is any specific dua to say while taking ghusl for intercourse and menstruation please do let me knw.

Other than making intention in one’s heart that one intends to perform the ‘ghusl’ to purify oneself and the declaration of ‘Bismillah’ before one starts the ‘ghusl’, there is absolutely no evidence in the authentic and established Sunnah that the Messenger of Allah (saws) would make any specific supplications during the ‘ghusl’ itself.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan