IF A WOMAN HAS SMOOCHES AND SUCKING OF BREASTS BEFORE MARRIAGE AND WITHOUT KNOWING IT IS A SIN UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF SOMEONE ELSE HOW SHOULD SHE APOLOGISE TO ALLAH?
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Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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IF A
WOMAN HAS SMOOCHES AND SUCKING OF BREASTS BEFORE MARRIAGE AND WITHOUT KNOWING
IT IS A SIN UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF SOMEONE ELSE HOW SHOULD SHE APOLOGISE TO
ALLAH?
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Answer:
Forgivness of sins
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He
allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there
is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah
Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the
seal of His Messengers.
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, a ‘sin’ is a
‘sin’, regardless of whether one does it knowingly or in ignorance
of the Law. Even in the courts of
this world, one cannot claim ignorance of the law of the land…. it remains
the responsibility of the subject to find out and follow the law!
Allow us to relate a very simple example: if a person
drives at 100km/hour in a 60 km/hour zone and when caught by the traffic police
claims that he did not know the speed-limit, the police will not accept his
excuse and will issue him a speeding ticket.
Thus if a man or a woman has entered into a physical
relationship out of marriage, one would be in clear violation and transgression
of the Law in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
The one and only atonement for transgressing the laws and limits of
Allah Subhanah is to turn back to their Lord and seek sincere repentance, make
a solemn covenant with Him that they would never ever commit the sin again, and
do righteous good deeds thereafter; it is expected that they will find their
Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Your
Question: HOW SHOULD SHE APOLOGISE TO ALLAH?
The conditions or ways to seek
sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry
and ashamed at one’s transgression.
- Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah
that they will not repeat the sin ever again.
- Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before one
has met with one’s appointment of death.
- Is a believer and does righteous good deeds
thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say:
“O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of
Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to
Him before the scourge overtakes you;
for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good
people very much, who, if ever they
commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for
their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not
knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with
forgiveness from Allah, and with
Gardens beneath which canals flow,
and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of
those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of
the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave
insolently towards them, they say,
“Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord,
save us from the torment of Hell,
for its torment is killing!
It is an evil abode, and an
evil resting place”. (And
those) who, when they spend are
neither extravagant, nor
miserly, but keep the golden mean
between the two extremes. (And
those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does
this shall be punished for his sin,
and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of
ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY
HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS),
AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change
his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact, one who
repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you
who believe in Our Signs, say:
"Peace be on you! Your Lord
had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in
ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Such is the Mercy and Grace of the Lord Most Gracious, that
if one turns to Him and seeks sincere repentance for their deeds, not only does
He forgive them their sin, but He, in His Sublime Mercy and Infinite Grace,
changes those evil deeds into good deeds in their Book of Records! Such is the Magnanimity and Benevolence
of The Lord Most Merciful towards His believing and repenting slaves who turn
to Him!
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and
He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in
Islam,
Burhan
Wister