Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Salaam Baad,

I want to know whole Nikha Procedure, if joda is set outside the other gaam or cities.

Tell me, Mumin and his parents go to mumina gaam and do nikha and nikha jaman and after come back with dhulhan to home and do remaning jaman in his palace ...... OR.....

Mumina and her parents come to mumin gaam and do nikha and all ceremony and nothing to mumina gaam?......OR......

Which type of real islam procedure when joda is set outside the gaam ,please tell me,thanks

khudha Haafiz

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Answer:

Walima

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Islam has made the concept of marriage a very simple and joyous affair in the lives of the believers; but unfortunately we have today made this whole affair complicated with our self-invented and socially borrowed customs and rituals.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.395 Narrated by Anas

The Prophet (saws) seeing a yellow mark (of perfume) on the clothes of 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, said, "What about you?" 'Abdur-Rahman replied, "I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone." The Prophet (saws) said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima) even with one sheep."

The Way or Sunnah of the Prophet (saws) was that after the Nikaah, he urged the believers to celebrate the joyous occasion of marriage with a marriage feast or ‘Walima’. Other than the ‘walima’ feast given by the groom after the marriage to announce his marriage to society, which is a preferred Sunnah and not obligatory, there are absolutely no rites, rituals, or feasts which are required or encouraged in Islam. It is also a part of Islamic culture and in alignment of the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) that all, and I repeat, all the expenses related to the marriage be born by the groom, and the bride or her family should not be burdened with any expense whatsoever.

The Sunnah is for the groom to offer one wedding feast or ‘walima’ to announce his marriage in the society where one is resident; every other feast regarding the marriage is unnecessary, not required, and a burden unto society.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan