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Q1:masturbation for a men after his marriage is not a sin? 

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Answer:

Masturbation after marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

The acts that Allah and His Messenger have forbidden in a sexual relationship between husband and wife are:

Anal sex.

Having sexual intercourse with the woman during her menses.

Some scholars have also voiced their opinion against touching either of the partner’s sex organs with the mouth. But because nothing is mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah about this particular act, the scholars have not said it is forbidden… The most they have said is that this act is closer to the forbidden than to the permissible; and thus one should fear Allah Subhanah and stay away from this act as it is considered impure, unclean and unhealthy.

The act of masturbation is when a man alone, without his wife, either through fantasizing, or with the help of vulgar and evil books, magazines, movies, etc. rubs his private parts with his hands until he reaches the state of ejaculation. This solo act is completely forbidden in Islam, whether the man is married or not.

The Messenger of Allah (saws) was asked about the limits of physical relationship a husband could enjoy with his wife during her menstruation, and he (saws) replied, "Do everything except intercourse."

Related by Muslim, Tirmidhi, Ahmad, Abu Dawood.

Masruq ibn al-Ajda' asked 'Aishah, "What is off limits to me sexually during my wife's menstruation?" She said, "Nothing, except the vagina."

Related by Bukhari.

Its obvious that most normal men would not masturbate with their wives, when he is allowed to have actual sexual intercourse with her. It is only when he is not permitted to have actual intercourse with his wife, due to her menses, or post-child birth period, or for any medical reason, etc., where a normal person would take this route of enjoying everything with his wife except actual intercourse. If the person ejaculates while enjoying a physical relationship with his wife, it would be considered perfectly legal and permissible in Islam.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan