Visit grave and sacrifice
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's
Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
ASSALAM U ALAIKUM SIR
WILL U PLEASE REPLY FOR THIS QTS ?
1) WHEN WE GO TO GRAVE YARD TO VISIT
OUR MARHOOM ABBA AMMI GRAVE & OTHERS WHAT SHUD WE RECITE THEIR TELL ME OK
SIR ?
2) DURING BAKRI EID WHEN WE OFFER
QURBANI CAN WE OFFER WITH OUR NAME OR OUR MARHOOM ABBA AMMI NAME OR ANY OTHER
PERSON NAME
REVERT WITH YR REPLIES
ALLAH HAFIZ
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Answer:
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Q-1: WHEN WE
GO TO GRAVE YARD TO VISIT OUR MARHOOM ABBA AMMI GRAVE & OTHERS WHAT SHUD WE
RECITE THEIR TELL ME OK SIR ?
Your wish
and intention to do something for your deceased parents is indeed a noble
intention. One should always strive to
serve and obey his/her parents when they are alive, and when they die, the child must do deeds that will benefit
them in the next world. The
rights, love, respect,
and obedience that Allah has commanded the believers towards their
parents, is second only to the rights of
Allah and His Messenger (saws).
The best
and most beneficial deed that a child can do for his deceased parents, is that he/she makes dua and supplications to
Allah for them. And these duas and
supplications may be done at all times,
not only when visiting the graves.
The best
duas are the ones that are mentioned for the parents in the Holy Quran.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 14 Surah Ibrahim verse 41: O
our Lord! Forgive me and my
parents, and all the believers, on the Day when Reckoning shall be held.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 23-24: Your
Lord has enjoined on you the following:
You should not worship anyone but Him.
(You should) treat your parents with great consideration; and if either or both of them live with you
in their old age, do not even say ‘uff’
to them; nor rebuke them, but speak kind words to them; treat them with humility and tenderness, and pray: “O our Lord, be merciful to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and
affection.”
You can
always make supplication to Allah in your own words and in your own
language, for Allah is indeed All
Knowing, All Hearing, All Merciful. Beg and supplicate Allah in all humility to
have mercy on them, forgive them, raise their position in
The other
thing we should do is ‘sadaqa jaariyah’ or charity in their name. Build mosques, build Islamic Institutions, help publish Quran and Islamic books, build hospitals, build Islamic schools, build orphanages or widow homes, etc. in
their names and beg Allah to accept these deeds. For all the above good deeds you do in your
parents name, the Merciful Lord will
Insha Allah give them the reward without reducing any of the reward that is due
to you. The better muslim you are, the better the reward that will be given to
your parents, for it was their teachings
and their patience and their sacrifices that made you a believer you are today.
The other
good deed you can do for them, is that
you must respect and honor the relatives,
friends, and loved ones of your
deceases parents. You must be good and
kind to them, and help them in whatever
way you can and to the best of your ability.
Allah
will Insha Allah, make all these good
deeds a source of ‘ajr’ and reward for you,
as well as for your parents.
The first
thing we must do when we visit any graveyard is invoke the prayer that the
Messenger of Allah (saws) used to invoke whenever he visited a graveyard.
‘Peace be
upon you, O people of this place
(graveyard). We too are coming behind
you. May Allah forgive us and you all.’
Then make
dua and supplication as related in the aayahs quoted above, or make dua in your own language to The
Merciful Lord to forgive them, have
mercy on them, and raise their status in
Q-2:
DURING BAKRI EID WHEN WE OFFER QURBANI CAN WE OFFER WITH OUR NAME OR OUR
MARHOOM ABBA AMMI NAME OR ANY OTHER PERSON NAME
Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, 'When a
person dies all his good deeds cease, except for three:
a continuous act of charity,
beneficial knowledge,
and a righteous son who prays for him'.''
Related by Muslim and Abu Dawood.
Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, 'The
righteous works that continue to benefit a believer after his death include the
knowledge that he taught and spread among others, a righteous son whom he
leaves behind, or a copy of the Qur'an that he bequeaths to his
inheritors, or a mosque that he builds, or a rest house that he builds for the
wayfarers, or a canal of water that he digs for the benefit of others, or a
charity that he gives out of his property during his life while he is sound of
health. He will continue to receive reward for all these even after his death.'
Related by Ibn Majah.
Abu Hurairah narrated that, "A man said to the Prophet
(saws) 'My father died leaving wealth, but no will. Would he be pardoned if we gave charity on
his behalf?' He (saws) said: 'Yes."'
Related by Ahmad and Muslim.
In light
of the above authentic narrations, it is permitted in Islam that a righteous
offspring of the deceased gives ‘sadaqah’ or offers sacrifice with the
intention that the reward for these good deeds reach their deceased parents.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister