Why Muslim girl cannot marry non-muslim?
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's
Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
i feel bad for asking
this question. i feel like i am straying from the right path by having doubts... but i can`t seem to get rid of them. one question i have is why is it
that muslim women can`t marry outside of their
religion. i understand it says so in the quran and it shouldn`t be
questioned, but when i try to think it through in my
head, it makes sense that at one time, men had the main influence in the family
than women, so the children would follow his religion, which is why men ar
allowed to marry outside of islam (i think) but surely in this day and age that is a little
old fashion (i feel like a disbeliever when saying
this because i know that islam
trangressess time as in it is never out of date)
surely in a situation where a man marries a nonmuslim
woman the children will have the non-muslim influence present? and a muslim
woman marrying a non muslim man -would there not be, in this day and age, an
equal amount of influence of religion from each parent as that of a muslim man
and a non muslim woman family? i`m
not sure if that makes any sense. i
hope it does, and i hope my silly doubts/question can
be answered/cleared up.may allah
bless you for your work.
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Answer:
Why Muslim girl cannot marry non-muslim?
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah says in
the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 36: It does not behove a believing
man and a believing woman that when Allah and His Messenger have given their
decision in a matter,
they should exercise an option in that matter of theirs. For whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed strayed
into manifest error.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 221: Do not marry ‘mushrik’ women unless they believe………Likewise, do not wed your
women to ‘mushrik’ men unless they believe……..These ‘mushrik’ people invite you
to the Fire, while Allah by His grace
invites you to the Garden and His Pardon,
and He makes His revelations plain to the people so that they should
learn a lesson and follow the admonition.
In light of the above
clear aayah of the Holy Quran, it is prohibited for a believing woman
to marry anyone (including the People of the Book) other than a believing
man. Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom and
Knowledge, has ordained that a believing
woman, who sincerely believes in Allah
and the Last Day, should not marry any
man from among the mushriks, unless they
believe.
Allah has allowed the
believing men to marry to believing woman, and the chaste women from among the
People of the Book (the Jews and the Christians). But Allah has allowed the believing woman to
marry only among the believing men.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah
Maidah verse 5: Likewise you (the
believing men) are permitted to marry believing chaste women, and chaste women from among the people of the
Book (Jews and Christians), provided
that you give them their due ‘mahr’ and desire
chastity, not lewdness, nor sected intrigues.
Your Question: but surely in this day and age
that is a little old fashion (i feel like a
disbeliever when saying this because i know that islam trangressess
time as in it is never out of date) surely in a situation where a man marries a
nonmuslim woman the children will have the non-muslim
influence present? and a muslim woman marrying a non muslim man -would there
not be, in this day and age, an equal amount of influence of religion from each
parent as that of a muslim man and a non muslim woman family?
Beloved sister in Islam,
you are indeed accurate that both the parents have a significant influence on
the children. Obviously the first option
would be that both the parents are muslim, so that the
child is born in a believing household.
Besides it is not as if Allah has commanded the believing men to marry
the women amongst the People of the Book; but rather it is only a permission, if one wishes to do so! It is expected that when the Jewish or Chrisitan woman who marries a true believer, and sees and experiences
his righteous behavior with her and all around her, she will be influenced to
accept the deen of Islam.
Islam has made the man
the leader of the household, made it his duty and responsibility to provide for
the family, given the ties of marriage
in his hands and Islam commands that the child will be known by his father’s
name.
Just because we live in
an unrighteous society today, where the pagan influence has made it seem
fair-seeming to make two leaders in one house!, or taken away the sole
responsibility of the man to provide for the family!, or taken away the ties of
the marriage from the hands of the man!, or to name their children using both
the mother’s and the father’s name (or even at times a completely different
name away from both!), etc…. does not mean that that is righteous conduct
according to the Guidance and the Nature Created by the One Who Created!!!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 15 Surah
Hijr verses 39-43:
39 (Iblis) said: "O my Lord! Because Thou hast put me in the
wrong, I will make (wrong) fair-seeming to them on the earth and I will put
them all in the wrong,
40 Except Thy servants among them sincere and purified (by Thy
grace)."
41 (Allah) said: "This (Way of My sincere servants) is indeed a
Way that leads straight to Me.
42 For over My servants no authority shalt
thou have, except such as put themselves in the wrong and follow thee."
43 And verily Hell is the promised abode for them all!
Shaytaan, the avowed enemy of man, has
vowed to make the ‘wrong’ fair-seeming to all who do not sincerely hold fast to
the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) and take them astray from the
Right Path! And today the society is
paying a heavy price for accepting the invitation of the Shaytaan
by ruining their households, in breaking their family structures, conflict in
their relationships with their parents, their wives and their children, their
brothers and their sisters, their friends and their loved ones, and the utter
loss of peace and security in this life, and the absolute loss in the life of
the Hereafter!
The Shaytaan has made
fair-seeming his devious invitation to his so-called
‘modern-progressive-educated-politically correct’ society as one that will lead
to harmony and happiness in one’s lives by loudly displaying the one case that
seems right and hiding the billions of cases where those who accepted his
invitation are made to suffer in silent pain and agony and absolute
misery! He then tries to make his
argument strong by loudly proclaiming the few cases that seem bad in those who
claim to follow Islam, and keeping tight-lipped about the millions of cases
where those who truly follow the tenets and commands of their Lord and Creator
enjoying peace and harmony in their lives!
He then uses these few bad cases to label the Guidance of Allah and His
Messenger (saws) as ‘backward, primitive, politically and socially incorrect,
and out of sync with ‘modern’ times and thought’!!!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 35 Surah Fatir verses 5-6:
5 O mankind! Certainly the promise of Allah is true. Let not then this present
life deceive you, nor let the Chief Deceiver (Shaytaan)
deceive you about Allah.
6 Verily, Shaytaan is an enemy to you: so
treat him as an enemy!
He only invites his adherents that they may become Companions of the
Blazing Fire.
If only one trusts,
obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
he can be assured of never ever being misled;
but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of
Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of
Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever
of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows
Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan