Differences with husband
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
'I have a problem. Last year my husband was talking to one of his senior staying in Malaysia and I happened to check the messages which he had sent to her. After reading those messages I was shocked and I have lost trust on him. In the messages he has written to that lady "you are my sweetheart,you are my darling, you are my jaanu. If you would have met me before my marriage I would have married you. When are you planning to come to Dubai?Today I am in romantic mood. Then she replied what will you do? Then he wrote if you were here I would have shown you. Each and every word which was written nailed my heart like a pin. I have lost respect and trust for him. I have 4 kids.I cannot live with such kind of person who is betraying his wife like this. Please advise. I want to leave him. I want to punish him also. But I am afraid by doing this I may involve myself in wrong deeds to punish him. Please advise me urgently. My life is becoming hell.'
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Sister you are within your rights to annul this marriage if you are sure he is cheating on you. We suggest you talk this matter out with him and let him explain himself so as to avoid any misunderstanding. You have to think about your children too. Will you be able to look after them alone. Have you got your family's support. Will he provide for yours and your children's sustenance. Breaking relations is the easy part, but you have to be aware of the consequences. Do not worry about punishing him or taking revenge. Leave that in the capable hands of our Lord creator.
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