Daughter requires Dua for abusive father

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Asalau alaykum i have a had this question on my mind for quite a while now n i would greatly appreciate an answer. i am a daughter of a very angry and moody father. many times he yells and screams at me for trivial things and brings me down. I know he loves me but being around him has gotten harder and harder while i was growing up. I am always worried about what he will yell at me for next or if i did something teh right way that he wants it done because otheriwse he will get angry and etc. you get the picture. so naturally im tearful most of the time stressed out about him alot and this has affected many other aspects of my life. The moments during which i am happy are far and few in between. I just know theres a better life and I know the way to that is through asking Allah for help. But I dunno what to ask for, should I ask that this man be removed from my life? should I ask that i feel the way that i want to feel? I do not intend him any harm I just want him out of my life. How do I ask for that in a dua? please reply back ASAP as this greatly troubles me, and it will be greatly appreciated thank you.

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Daughter requires Dua for abusive father

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Sister usually a father is one of the greatest blessings Allah swt has bestowed on His maid slaves (daughters). Sometimes, some daughters get angry/abusive fathers. Remember that you are only going to spend maximum 20-25 years of your life with him, then InshaAllah you will get married and go maybe far far away.

We feel very sad and concerned that your father has not been able to be kind and understanding to such an extent that you want to pray to get relief from him. This is truly a trying time for you. But Sister this is your trial and you should bear it with patience and humility and instead of almost hating your father you should pray for him and beg Allah swt to forgive him his errors and maybe bring about love and affection between you and him.

Your father maybe is not doing his duty towards you, but that does not mean you should not do your duty towards him. Our sincere advice is that you be the loving daughter and bear all the abuse with stoic dignity. In that you will get huge rewards from your Majestic Lord. No matter what, you just bear all that he has to throw at you and never utter a word of anger.

Soon Allah swt will end your trial and bring relief according to His will and decree. This is a great opportunity to earn reward (ajr) from your Lord Creator. Keep up your constant supplications to Him and always pray for your father. Also ensure you perform your obligatory prayers in time, read the Noble Quran in a language you understand, fast during Ramadhan, keep righteous company and do good deeds always.

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