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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Is it bad to talk to friends or girlfriend about sex? what does islam say about it? what should i do if i see naked girls all the time in my dream (wet dream)? is there any way to stop it or avoid it? does sex has harmful effect on body? from which age sex can be done?  

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Answer:

Talk about sex to friends

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His  forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Q-1: Is it bad to talk to friends or girlfriend about sex?

Firstly, it is absolutely prohibited in Islam for an adult male to have any relationships, or make friends with non-mehram women. The concept on having non-mehram girl-friends is absolutely forbidden in Islam!

It is not only bad, but it is absolutely prohibited in Islam to talk about ones sexual experience with anyone. The Messenger of Allah (saws) invoked the curse of Allah on the people who have sex, and then relate their experiences to other people.

Q-2: what should i do if i see naked girls all the time in my dream (wet dream)?

Allah Subhanah will only hold one accountable for the deeds which one does in his full senses. A person has no control over his dreams, thus Allah will not hold the person accountable for what he saw and did in his dreams. There is no sin on the person who experiences a ‘wet dream’, because one’s dreams are not in one’s control.

All good dreams are from Allah; and all evil dreams are from the Shaitaan. If one sees an evil dream, the Messenger of Allah (saws) has guided and taught the believers that whenever they wake up from an evil dream, they should ‘spit’ three times over their left shoulder, and recite: “Aoodo Billahe minas Shaitaan ar Rajeem” (I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitaan, the cursed).

Q-3: is there any way to stop it or avoid it?

It is the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws) that he would seek the refuge of Allah and recite the 113^th and 114^th Surahs of the Quran (Surah Falak and Surah Naas) before he went to sleep. He (saws) said that Allah Subhanah would protect the one who seeks refuge in Him, from the cursed Shaitaan, for the whole night.

If one regularly practices this Sunnah of reciting the 113^th and 114^th Surah of the Quran before he sleeps, and sincerely seeks refuge in Allah from Shaitaan; it is expected that Allah Subhanah will protect him form any and all evil.

Q-4: does sex has harmful effect on body?

Having sex is natural, and no amount of sex can have a harmful effect on the body.

Q-5: from which age sex can be done?  

After the age of puberty, a person becomes aware of his/her sexual desires. Thus, it all depends on what age one gets married after puberty. Islam has made it a condition that one must marry before he has sex with his spouse. Pre-marital sex or fornication is absolutely forbidden in Islam, is considered a grave sin, and is punishable by 100 lashes for the man and the women.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan