Pls explain in details that the parents duty to thr child.
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
What
are the names that we should not give to our babies (Islamic names)
for
ex. Firdous, jannath, or a combine name with firdous like "yasmeen
firdours" etc..
And also could you pls explain in details that the parents duty to thr child
(boy and girl). what i want to know , at what age we need to perform certain duties
like
- Age to start his paryer
- Age
to performance of HAJ
- Age
to Fasting
- Age
to Keep child away from our bed
- Age
to start giving him islamic education
- Age
to have circumcision rites
- Any
other duty that parents need to perform (Haqiqah)
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Age parents
responsibility towards children
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Your
Question: What are the names that we should not give to our babies
Beloved brother in Islam, a name assigned to each
individual is no more than a sign or recognition of that person; and there is
absolutely no obligation or compulsion in Shariah that a believer is obliged or
required to give their children a ‘traditional’ Islamic or muslim name. One is at complete liberty to assign any good
wholesome name to their off-spring in absolutely any language they will or
please.
The only names which Islam prohibits from assigning to a
believer are names which connote or denote polytheism or disbelief (Abdul-Lat,
Abdul-Uzza, (slaves of the pagan gods like Lat and Uzza, etc.) or names like
Ramdas (slave of the Hindu god Ram), etc.; or names which have an inherit evil
or vile meaning.
Other than names which connote polytheism and disbelief,
or names which have an inherently evil meaning….Islam has allowed the believers
the complete freedom to chose and assign any good wholesome name in any
language they will and please.
Your
Question: for ex. Firdous, jannath, or a combine name with firdous like
"yasmeen firdours"
etc..
’Firdaus’ is the name
of the absolute highest grade and rank of
Your
Question: what i want to know , at what age we need to perform certain duties
like
Ref:- Age to start his paryer
Hadrat Ali ibn Abi Talib (r.a.) reported that
the Prophet (saws) said: "The pen is raised for three groups [of
people]—(that is, they will not be responsible for their actions): the insane
until they become sane, those who are sleeping until they awaken, and the
young until they reach the age of puberty."
Related by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, and at-Tirmidhi.
Although it is not obligatory for a child to pray, it is a
must that their parents/guardians encourage them to offer their prayers from an
early age, order them to pray regularly when they are about seven years of age,
and strictly enforce them to offer their prayers when they reach the age of
ten.
Amr ibn Shu'aib related from his father on
the authority of his grandfather that the Prophet (saws) said, "Order your
children to pray when they reach the age of seven. Beat them (if they don't
pray) when they reach the age of ten. And have them sleep separately."
Related by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, and al-Hakim.
Ref:- Age to
performance of HAJ
Ibn
Abbas (r.a.) reports: "The Prophet (saws) said: 'Any minor (child) who
performs Hajj must perform it again after coming of age.’"
Related by At-Tabarani.
As-Sa'ib bin Yazid (r.a.) says: "My
father performed Hajj with the Prophet (saws) who was performing his Farewell
Hajj, while I was only seven years old."
Related by Ahmad, Bukhari and Tirmidhi, who
noted: "All scholars agree that if a minor performs Hajj, he must repeat
his Hajj upon coming of age.”
Hadrat Umar (r.a.) and Ibn Abbas (r.a.) both
reported that during a Hajj a woman lifted a boy, and asked the Prophet (saws),
"Will this boy be rewarded for Hajj?" The Prophet (saws) answered:
"Yes, and you too will be rewarded." (The boy will be rewarded for
his obedience, while the mother will be rewarded for helping and instructing
him to perform Hajj.)
There is absolutely no harm if one wishes to take their
young children below the age of puberty along with them to the Hajj pilgrimage,
but because they have not yet reached the age of puberty, they will be
considered a minor in Shariah; and they would have to perform their obligatory
Hajj again when they reach adulthood.
But there is absolutely no harm and no restriction in Shariah if one
wishes to take their minor children to the Hajj or Umrah pilgrimage with them.
Ref:-
Age to Fasting
Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh 3.114b
Topic: Essential elements of fasting, the
fast of the young [minors]
Though the young below the age of puberty are
not required to fast, it is proper for their parents/guardians to encourage
them to fast so they will become accustomed to the worship of fasting from
early age. They may fast as long as they are able to and then may break it.
Ar-Rabi'a bint Mu'awiyyah reported: "The
Messenger of Allah (saws) sent a man, on the morning of the day of Ashurah to
the residences of the Ansar, saying: 'Whoever has spent the morning fasting is
to complete his fast. Whoever has not spent this morning fasting should fast
for the remainder of the day.' We fasted after that announcement, as did our
young children. We would go to the mosque and make toys stuffed with cotton for
them to play with. If one of them started crying due to hunger, we would give
them a toy to play with until it was time to eat."
Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
One may encourage their children to fast from the age they
have some basic understanding (like 7-8 years), and if the parents find that it
is difficult for their child to remain hungry and thirsty for the whole period
of the fast, there is absolutely no harm if they encourage them to observe
their fast only till the ‘dhuhr’ or ‘asr’ time.
Like all other acts of worship in Islam, fasting would
become obligatory upon the child only when they reach the age of puberty.
Ref:-
Age to Keep child away from our bed
Amr ibn Shu'aib related from his father on
the authority of his grandfather that the Prophet (saws) said, "Order your
children to pray when they reach the age of seven. Beat them (if they don't
pray) when they reach the age of ten. And have them sleep
separately."
Related by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, and al-Hakim.
Although one may very well train their children to sleep
separately whenever they wish, once they reach the age of 10 years, the boys and
girls must be ordered to sleep absolutely separate from each other.
Ref:-
Age to start giving him islamic education
The parents should strive to start giving their children
basic ‘Islamic’ education from an extremely early age, or as soon as the
children is able to talk or form a sentence.
They should be trained in basic etiquettes of Islam like saying the
Islamic greetings of ‘Salaam Alaykum’, saying ‘Alhamdolillah’ when they sneeze,
saying ‘Bismillah’ when they start eating or drinking anything, etc.
Also it would be extremely prudent to start teaching them
some phrases which Extol and Praise Allah Subhanah, short Surahs from the
Glorious Quran, some supplications from the Quran and the Sunnah, etc. as soon
as they have reached the age of basic understanding, which would be between 3-5
years of age.
Ref:-
Age to have circumcision rites
Although Islam has not specified a particular age or
number of days after birth the circumcision of the baby boy should be
performed, it is best done during the age of infancy or at an early age. Since Islam has not specified a specific time
limit for the Sunnah of circumcision, one may have it done as early as one’s
birth or delay it till later as one wishes or is easy for them.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.575 Narrated by Abu Huraira
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Prophet
Ibrahim (a.s.) did his circumcision with an ‘adze’ (a cutting instrument of the
times) at the age of eighty (years)."
Ref:-
Any other duty that parents need to perform (Haqiqah)
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2832 Narrated by Samurah ibn Jundub
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘A child is in
pledge for his ‘Aqiqah’, sacrifice is made for it on the seventh day, its head
is shaved, and it is given a name.’
It is a preferred Sunnah to offer the Aqiqa sacrifice on
the 7th day of the birth of the child; but if for any reason one is
unable to offer it on the 7th day and wishes to offer it later, it
is expected that his sacrifice will be accepted by the Lord Most Merciful.
The Aqiqa sacrifice is not obligatory or ‘fard’ in Islam;
but rather it is a preferred Sunnah and voluntary. If one does offer this sacrifice as a form of
gratitude to his Merciful Creator for the gift of the child which The Lord Most
Gracious has bestowed upon them, there is a huge reward, and if one does not
offer it for any reason, there is no sin.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister