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My Brother Assalam Alaikum. I am a girl and my mother died 5 years back, I have been engaged to a boy in relation to my mother after a brief ceremony 4 years ago in te presence of all the relations. I have 3 more sisters who are grown up and my father who is widower wants perform his responsibilities as soon as possible. Unfortunately my would be inlaws are delaying the marriage on one context or the other,so please advise me how this matter should be solved,in the light of shariah. I am in fix please help me.
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Delay in marriage
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Sister the right thing to do is to approach or find somebody from the family to approach your would be in-laws and find out their real reason for delaying the marriage. There can be no known reasons for delaying a marriage for 4 years or longer. Get your father to give them a reasonable deadline after which you should make a decision and seek a proposal elsewhere. There will be no sin upon you whatsoever. In Islam the engagement does not hold any relevance. There is no requirement for an engagement as such. It is the nikah which is important.
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