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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Salaam im 23, hmdl im a practising muslim for over 3years, insha allah i try to go to saudi arabia for studying, but i have a big problem with my apperiance, when i was younger allah swt gave me beauty ,beautiful hair ,face..., but how older i got how uglyer i got, i know we have to say hmdl and be thankful to allah swt for all the things that allah swt gives us,but every time i look into a mirror soubhanallah akhi i feel very very bad, because i know i wasnt always like this,now i made pictures for my pasport, and soubhanallah in pictures its even wourse, my face is like misfigured, i know leaving a sunnah is not an option for me,but because i have sunnah beard hmd,l i look even more ugly and older, my mother and big sister also many times they say, bad things about how i look, my hear my face ,beard..and i see that people sometimes they look at me strange, people saying i changed much before i was beautiful now not anymore, and its killing me from inside, i try to think possitive, but akhi i have also a heart and emotions, and i live with this issue already to long, what can i do ,what can be the reason that allah swt made me like this, is it for my sins,or can it be a test is it possible that allah swt give me back beauty in this world if i dont fail insha allah, is there a du `aa for this problem, can i ask allah swt for beauty and if yes how? i know this life is just temporary, and we have to ask allah swt to save us from hell fire and give us a place in firdaws insha allah, wich i do, but allah swt gave me this problem wich for me now is very big, and allah swt created for every problem a solution,and everything has its reason, and i just want to figure it out what is the solution and what can be the reason, because i dont feel good im very depressed and alone, also my attitude changed, im always thinking i avoid contact, with many people im not social or even aggressive, and this gives me more worries because i know i will be punished for this also, please answer me inshaallah, wa 3alaykmslmwrwb. 

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Answer:

Ask Allah for beauty man

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 82 Surah Infitaar verses 6-8:

6 O man! What has seduced thee from thy Lord, Most Beneficent?

7 Him Who created thee. Fashioned thee in due proportion, and gave thee a just bias;

8 In whatever Form He Wills, does He put thee together.

Allah Subhanah fashioned and created His creation in whatever form He Willed and Pleased, and it simply does not befit a believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to be displeased or dissatisfied with anything with which the Lord Most Gracious Himself is Pleased!

Just as The All-Knowing, All-Wise Lord has bestowed one with more wealth, or age, or status, or rank, or position than another, similarly it is at the sole Discretion of the Lord that He chooses to bestow one with more beauty and form than another.

In whatever form your Lord Most Gracious has chosen and pleased to grace you with….as a believer who believes in Allah and the Last Day, it is your duty to be satisfied with what your Lord is pleased with, and be sincerely grateful unto Him.

Thus my respected brother, rather than displaying ingratitude by being dissatisfied with the bodily form which your Lord Most Gracious Himself is Pleased to provide you with…..it would be prudent to beseech your Lord for things which would be far more beneficial for you and your Hereafter.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 5099 Narrated by Aisha

Allah's Messenger (saws) used to say, "O Allah, just as Thou hast made my form beautiful so make my character beautiful."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan