I want to marry but cannot find a groom
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Assalamualaikum,I am a 24 year old girl, unmarried. Me and my family have been looking for a groom for me from last 3yrs but we are not able to find someone suitable or maybe the proposals dont click. A year back i had got engaged but then it didnt work out due to certain reasons. Now again we are looking either we dont like someone, or they dont like us, or if we like someone they dont reply us. I dont understand what to do. Some people tell my mother someone has done magic for your daughter not to get married and you should open faal and do something so that the spell is removed. I dont beleive in all these things but i want dont want my mom to get into this faal matters. What should we do so that we can find a groom fast for me? Even i am aging and even i am fedup of meeting people and seeing their sons showing my photographs. Alhamdulillah i pray 5times a day do all my azkaars and all but still its taking time. PLease give me some sincere advise on this issue.Jazakallah
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I want to marry but cannot find a groom
My dear beloved sister in Islam, if all the Jinns and all the magicians of the world were to get together and plot and plan to bring about any harm upon anyone, they would not even be able to damage even one hair on the body of that individual without the precise Will and Permission of Allah Subhanah, the Lord of the Worlds! Thus one should neither fear the Jinns, nor the magicians, but rather one should fear Allah their Lord, and keep their full trust and belief in Him and Him Alone.
Your statement: Some people tell my mother someone has done magic for your daughter not to get married and you should open faal and do something so that the spell is removed.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 185: Ramadan is the month in which the Quran was sent down: this Book is a Perfect Guidance for mankind and consists of clear Teachings which show the Right Way, and are a Criterion of the Truth and falsehood.
The Glorious Quran was revealed by Allah Subhanah as a Book of Guidance and not as a recipe to foretell or find out what the future holds for one, with regard to worldly or personal matters like sick, marriage problem etc. Allah has revealed His Guidance, sent His Messengers, bestowed man with intelligence and the power of reasoning, and one must follow the Guidance, and use their bestowed intelligence, wisdom and experience in determining the path that is best suited to them in all matters.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah Luqmaan verse 34: Verily the knowledge of the Hour is with Allah (Alone). It is He Who sends down rain and it is He (Alone) who knows what is in the wombs. Nor does anyone know what it is that he will earn on the tomorrow: nor does anyone know in what land he is to die. Verily with Allah is full knowledge and He is acquainted (with all things).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 72 Surah Jinn verses 25-27: Say (O Prophet (saws)): "I know not whether the (punishment) which ye are promised is near or whether my Lord will appoint for it a distant term.He (Alone) knows the Unseen, nor does He make any one acquainted with His Mysteries except (what He Wills to) a Messenger whom He has chosen.
It is absolute misguidance and a manifestation of the abomination of shirk to determine ones future in the life of this world by randomly opening a page of any book, or even (Allah forbid) the Glorious Quran! The people who open these so-called faals and the people who solicit their future from such unscrupulous moulvis and scholars, both are in manifest sin and will be held severely accountable in the Court of the Lord Most Majestic for making a complete mockery of the Guidance of Allah Subhanah!
If anyone using any method whatsoever, be it faal, or reading of the palms, or looking at the stars, or the heavenly bodies, or any other thing whatsoever.claims to know or foretell the future, know with total and absolute conviction that the person who makes such claims is an absolute, confirmed, and manifest liar! There is no one in creation, and we reiterate, absolutely no one in creation who knows or can tell what will happen to anyone in the unseen or in the future..Allah Subhanah Alone and Absolutely Alone Knows the seen and the unseen; and He Alone Knows what is past, what is present, and what the future holds!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4563 Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri Allah's Messenger (saws used to seek refuge in Allah from jinn and the evil eye in men till the Mu'awwidhatan (Surah 113 Al-Falaq and Surah 114 An-Naas) were revealed, after which he (saws) made use of them and abandoned everything else.
If ever one fears any evil from any quarter, the guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws) dictates that one recite the Muawwidhaat (Surahs 113 Al-Falaq and 114 An-Naas), seeking refuge and putting their complete trust and faith in the Power and Strength and Protection
of Allah Subhanah Alone; it is expected that their Lord Most High will protect them from any and all evil and no evil or harm will be able to approach them from any quarter.
If one fears any evil from any quarter of the unseen and does anything else, like using a taaweedh, or an amulet, or a charm, or sprinkle water, or do absolutely anything else other than seeking refuge in their Lord and reciting the Muawwidhaat (Surahs 113 Al-Falaq and 114 An-Naas)..then it would be deemed that they have put their trust in a thing other than Allah Subhanah, and all such forms and rites would constitute the evil manifestation of shirk in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Your statement: Please give me some sincere advice on this issue. Jazakallah
Dear and beloved sister in Islam, beseech and implore your Lord Most Bounteous as often as you can and beseech Him in all humility, fear, and hope to give you success in the eternal life of the Hereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186: And if My servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning Me, tell them that I am quite near to them. I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2257 Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri The Prophet (saws) said, "Any Muslim who makes a supplication containing nothing which is sinful, or which involves breaking ties of relationship, will be given for it by Allah one of three things: He will give him swift answer, or store it up for him in the next world, or turn away from him an equivalent amount of evil." Those who heard it said they would then make many supplications and he replied that Allah was more ready to answer than they were to ask.
Nu'man b. Bashir reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Verily supplication is worship."Narrated by Ahmad and Sunan.
Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, "Nothing is more dear to Allah than one's supplication to Him.'' Narrated by Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah.
Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban.
Abdallah b. 'Umar reported that the Prophet (saws) said, "Hearts are like vessels, some more attentive and capacious than others. When you supplicate Allah you should be certain of being answered, and know that Allah does not answer a supplication that comes from a careless and inattentive heart." Narrated by Ahmad
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,