Marry eldest sibling.
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I have a question, please give the Islamic perspective.
I am looking for a suitable marriage partner for my eldest daughter. Can you tell me whether she being the eldest child in her family, cannot get married to a groom who is eldest in his family. What is the Islamic perspective?
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Marry eldest sibling
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We absolutely assure you that there is nothing in the Glorious Quran or the authentic and established Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws) which even discourages, leave alone prohibits the eldest (or youngest, or middle, etc.) off-spring of one family marrying the eldest (or youngest, or middle, etc.) off-spring of another family.
Respected brother, if you seek to marry your daughter who happens to be the eldest off-spring in your family to an eligible believer who also happens to be the eldest off-spring in his family.there is absolutely no harm, no restriction, and no prohibition in Shariah Law in doing so.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'
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