What should i do if my parents dont approve of the person i want to marry just because he is not the same nationality as me but is a muslim.
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what should i do if my parents dont approve of the person i want to marry just because he is not the same nationality as me but is a muslim.
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Parents approval for marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verse 54:
54 It is He Who has created man from water: then has He established relationships through blood and (through) marriage: for thy Lord has Power (over all things).
Islam guides that a marriage is not merely a union of two people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole families.thus if one is faced with a situation whereby ones daughter is so in love with an eligible believer and the parents of the girl are satisfied with the character and the practice of religion of the proposed suitor..they may accede to the choice of their daughter.
If for any reason one finds that their parents are just not willing to consent to their choice, it would be better for her to marry another boy whom both, she and her parents approve of.for marriage in Islam is but a Sunnah (voluntary), but to obey and be dutiful to the lawful commands of ones parents is Fard-ayn or absolutely obligatory upon every believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated byAbu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the Grave Sins, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216:
216 But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah Knows and ye know not.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,