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The messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) mustve mentioned something about love in Islam; The love to particularly the opposite sex. If someone loves another of the opposite sex before marriage, would ones heart (faith) or devotion to Allah die?
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Love permissible comparison Allah prophet(saws)
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imraan verses 14-15:
14 Fair (or attractive) in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: (ie.) women, and sons, heaped-up hoards of gold and silver, horses (or vehicles) branded, and (wealth of) cattle and well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this worldly life; but in nearness to Allah is the best of the goals.
15 Say: Shall I give you glad tidings of things far better than those? For the righteous are Gardens in nearness to their Lord, with rivers flowing beneath; therein is their eternal home; with companions pure (and holy) and (above all) the Good Pleasure of Allah. For in Allah's Sight are (all) His servants.
Respected brother in Islam, love-hate, like-dislike, joy-sorrow, smile-weep, etc. are but natural emotions of mankind! What determines virtue and sin is what one says or does when one experiences these natural emotions!
To love someone is a natural emotion, and there is absolutely no sin if one happens to like or love a non-mehram member of the opposite gender; it is what one does and says after one has fallen in love with that person which would determine whether it would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah or a sin!
If one falls in love, and informs ones guardians that they love so and so, and requests them to sanctify their love in the sacred bond of marriage so that they may love each other for the rest of their lives would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
But if one falls in love, and strives to meet or talk to the person in secret and in private, and in their love transgress the Prescribed Boundaries of Allah Subhanah before they are united in the sacred bond of marriage; then indeed it would constitute a huge sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:
5 This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who are losers.
Your Question: .If someone loves another of the opposite sex before marriage, would ones heart (faith) or devotion to Allah die?
It is only natural for a human being to love things which his bestowed nature covets: ie. women, and sons, and branded vehicles, and wealth or property, etc.
There is absolutely no harm or sin if one loves these worldly provision, provided one holds ones love for Allah Subhanah and His Messenger (saws) superior to and above every other being or thing one happens to love..it is only when one holds the love of these worldly provisions superior to and above the love that one should hold for Allah Subhanah and His Messenger (saws) that one would fall into severe error.
As long as one loves Allah and His Messenger (saws) above all their other worldly loves, it would not effect the faith and the devotion of their hearts unto their Lord Most Gracious..it is only those who place their worldly loves superior to and above the love that they should have for Allah and His Messenger (saws) whose hearts are devoid of faith and devotion unto their Creator.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 9 Surah Taubah verse 24:
24 Say: If it be that your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that ye have gained, the commerce in which ye fear a decline, or the dwellings in which ye delight, are dearer to you than Allah or His Messenger, or the striving in His Cause; then wait until Allah brings about His Decision! And Allah guides not the rebellious.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.14 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) said "None of you will have faith till he loves (Allah Subahnah and) me more than his father, his children and all mankind combined!"
And how is one to know whether ones heart loves Allah Subhanah and His Messenger (saws) more than anyone and anything else in creation?......whenever the love or desire one has for anyone or anything else in creation clashes with the Guidance or the Command of Allah Subhanah and His Messenger (saws), those who love Allah and His Messenger (saws) more, willingly sacrifice their other love only for the Sake of Allah Subhanah! These are those fortunate beings in whose hearts faith and devotion unto their Lord Creator and His Cause is truly and firmly established.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,