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assalam o alykum

i married with a girl, to whom i like most, but, i came to know that she was in love with someone else, and she had made court marriage (hidden marriage without the knowledge of her parents and anyother relatives, the lover was a playboy, touching had been done)

and i married the girl, I have a son & doughter, I am really worried, that what Allah Pak decide for me.

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Answer:

Marry married woman

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Statement: I am really worried, that what Allah Pak decide for me.

Whenever one is not given a choice to exercise one’s free will….like the place or date of one’s birth, the place or date of one’s death, which parents one is to be born unto, one’s height, one’s color, one’s race, or one’s tribe, one’s age, one’s level of sustenance or livelihood, the number or functioning of one’s eyes, ears, limbs, etc….one has a right to claim that it was Allah Subhanah Who Decreed and Determined and Proportioned these faculties for them.

But wherever and whenever one is given a choice to exercise one’s free will….to believe or not to believe, to be righteous or be unrighteous, to fulfill one’s duties unto one’s Creator and unto the created, how to earn one’s sustenance, how to spend one’s sustenance, how to live one’s life, whom to seek to marry, etc….these are decisions where one uses one’s bestowed intelligence and reasoning, and of one’s own free will chooses to fulfill the matter in a particular way, or abstain from it.

Wherever and whenever one is not given an option to exercise one’s free will, one would find no guidance on how to fulfill that matter in the Quran and the Sunnah; nor will one be held accountable for the matter in the Presence of their Lord….but wherever and whenever one is given an option to exercise one’s free will, one would find ample guidance on how to best fulfill that matter in the Quran and the Sunnah; and without an iota of a doubt, one will be held accountable for every choice and every decision they made in the Presence of their Lord in the Hereafter!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221:

221 Do not marry idolatrous women until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an idolatrous woman even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to disbelievers until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than a disbeliever even though he allures you. Disbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His Praise.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verses 23-24:

23 Prohibited to you (for marriage) are: your mother, daughters, sisters, father's sisters, mother's sisters, brother's daughters, sister's daughters, foster-mothers (who gave you suck), foster-sisters, your wives' mothers, your step-daughters under your guardianship born of your wives to whom ye have gone in, no prohibition if ye have not gone in; (those who have been) wives of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in wedlock at one and the same time except for what is past; for Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

24 Also (prohibited are) women already married except those whom your right hands possess. Thus hath Allah ordained (prohibitions) against you: except for these, all others are lawful provided ye seek (them in marriage) with gifts from your property desiring chastity not lust. Seeing that ye derive benefit from them give them their dowers (at least) as prescribed; but if after a dower is prescribed ye agree mutually (to vary it) there is no blame on you and Allah is All-Knowing All-Wise.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5 (part):

5 ……. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who are losers.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

The very fact that Allah and His Messenger (saws) have guided the believers regarding whom amongst the womenfolk are lawful or unlawful to seek in marriage, or whom best amongst the lawful women one should seek to marry…..it is evident that ‘whom one’s seeks to marry’ is not a Decree or a Determination of Allah Subhanah, but a choice one makes for oneself.

If one wishes to take advantage of the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) and chooses to marry a chaste, pious, God-fearing and believing woman, one would have made the right decision; and if one wishes to ignore the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) and chooses to marry an unchaste, or impious, or a non-God-fearing woman, or even a woman to whom marriage is prohibited in Shariah Law……it is the decision one has made for oneself; and one has no right to blame anyone but oneself for the quality of one’s decisions!

The woman you married is your decision alone; neither did Allah Subhanah force you to marry that woman, nor did He Decree and Determine that you have to marry that woman…….and because marriage itself and whom to marry is a decision one makes of one’s own free will, one will be held accountable and answerable for making their choice in the Presence of their Lord Most Majestic Most Supreme on that Inevitable Day of Judgment!

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan