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Salam awb dearest sheikh,

I really love your answers, marshala you cover everything and you back everything up with authentic sources. I have asked a particular question from you before but didn't recieve a reply, I know you are a busy man and have a life but I am just fearing you brushed it over or something so I am going to ask this question again. Please when you reply, I would much appreciate it if you can personally reply to my email address which is 

Ok, well, my question is this: I am a 20 year old sister and live in Australia with my family, surrounded by fitna. I would really like to get married for many reasons but the problem is this:

1st-There is no one, I can't go around looking for a husband for myself, I am a girl and I feel ashamed of such an act.

2nd-My family doesnt seem to know my animalistic needs for love and what have you and as such, they are not looking for a mate for me,

3rd-Our local imam is hopeless, all he gives khutbas on is salat, we know salat, he gives no khutba on practical issues nor does he use his common sense in matching people up

I know about fasting and being patient but I would still like to know what I can do to get married? What douas (supplications) can I say?

I really appreciate any help and I would certainly appreciate your prayers for me.

Am waiting patiently for your reply as long as it takes.

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Answer:

One seeks to hasten hurry marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'

Respected Sister in Islam, it is only natural that when one attains the age of youth one seeks to marry to lawfully fulfill their natural desires. It is also in the ‘hard-disc’ or the very nature bestowed by the Lord Most Gracious upon the parents/guardians that when their off-springs come of age, they earnestly wish to see them married and settled down. Unless and until the parents/guardians have an absolutely genuine reason to delay the marriage of their children, it would be absolutely unnatural for them to be uninterested, indifferent, or unconcerned regarding the marriage of their off-spring.

Islam absolutely encourages the parents/guardians to make haste in marrying their children….and sister, because a marriage in Islam is considered an absolutely preferred Sunnah, if you feel or have reason to believe that your parents/guardians are unconcerned regarding your marriage, you should not hesitate in the least to inform and request them politely but firmly to seek a suitable suitor for your marriage.

Your Question: What douas (supplications) can I say?

To the best of our knowledge there is no specific dua or supplication taught by the Messenger of Allah (saws) for one who seeks to hasten their marriage; thus one who seeks to hasten the fulfilling of the preferred Sunnah of marriage is at absolute liberty to implore and beseech their Lord Most Gracious in their supplications for whatever lawful their hearts might desire.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:

And if My servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning Me, tell them that I am quite near to them. I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!

Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, "Nothing is more dear to Allah than one's supplication to Him.''

Narrated by Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah.

Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."

Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban.

Among the best supplications one may make to the Merciful Lord is the one that the Lord Himself taught the believers in His Glorious Quran, and one that was most frequently used by the Messenger of Allah (saws):

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 200-202 (part):

200 …There are men who say: "O Our Lord! Give us (thy bounties) in this world!" but they will have no portion in the hereafter.

201 And there are men who say: "O Our Lord! Give us good in this world and good in the Hereafter, and defend us from the torment on the fire!"

202 To these will be allotted what they have earned, and Allah is quick in account.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan