Urge eager to marry.
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I am a student studying undergraduation. I have two more years left for my studies to complete. I am very eager to get married as soon as i complete my studies. I can imagine the life after marriage to be full of peace and solitude. So i have no objection in getting married right now ( i dont have any girl in mind,i wish my parents to look for a proper bride for me). Should i share my feelings with my parents?. Is it necessary that i should be able to handle all the expenses of the spouse?. Is this feeling natural?. It just helps me in staying away from all sort of evil which lead me a step forward towards Zina.
May i get married to an ideal muslim girl as soon as possible.
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Urge eager to marry
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Respected brother, it is only natural that when one reaches the age of adulthood and marriage, one has the natural urge and desire to marry….and Islam absolutely encourages the believers to marry soon after one has reaches marriageable age rather than later.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah
We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Your Question: Should i share my feelings with my parents?
Respected brother, without any hesitancy whatsoever, you should share your feelings with your parents and request them to search for a righteous bride for you as soon as possible; and it would not be piety and righteousness on the part of the parents to delay the marriage of their off-spring without an absolutely valid reason.
Your Question: Is it necessary that i should be able to handle all the expenses of the spouse?.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:
34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard.
Islam has made it the obligatory responsibility of the husband to bear the complete financial upkeep of his wife; thus indeed, you would be responsible to bear and handle the expenses for the upkeep of your wife after marriage.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,