Second marriage lawful.
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Assalam-o-Alaikum
My father, a doctor, has always been an arrogant and cold man. he used to
emotionally torture, beat and mistreat my mother up to the point that she
became mentally ill and psycotic. she is on medicines for past several years.
my grandfather, who used to handle situations, died .A month after his death,
my father married a nurse at his previous workplace living in a different
city.they were having an affair on mobile phone. He told every body that he
married for the "Bakshish" of his father and it is a "naiki to
give name to a lady who is not getting rishtas"
My mother, I and our immidiate family were totally unaware of this doing for
almost a year till one day we recieved a call. i asked my father but he
denied.That night i slept contented. Next evening he took me to the hospital. A
baby was placed on my lap, i was given sweet and my father declared his
marriage. My mother is in shock since she new about it and that was the most
terrifying moment of my life. i wish i was dead before it happened.
Please
tell me;
*IS
THIS WHAT ISLAM TEACHES?
*IS
HIS MARRIAGE VALID without my mothers permission?
*we
are studying and are dependant upon him but hate him indefinately?
*Will
an affair on cellphone, resulting in marriage give peace to my grandpa`s soul?
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Answer:
Second marriage
lawful
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Your
Question: IS HIS MARRIAGE VALID without my mothers permission?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 3:
3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the
orphans, marry women of your choice: two, or three, or four; but
if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one
or (a captive) that your right hands possess.
That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice
The one and only condition Allah Subhanah has laid upon
the believers who wish to exercise their lawful option of marrying more than
one wife is that they are absolutely just amongst their wives in the
distribution of their time and their resources amongst them. There is absolutely nothing in the Quran nor
in the authentic Sunnah which stipulates or puts a condition that a believer
needs the prior permission or consent of his first wife before he marries for a
second time.
There is allowance and an option in Shariah for the
believers who wish to marry more than one wife upto an absolute maximum of
four, if indeed the believer wishes to exercise this option….but he must fear
Allah and practice justice between his wives.
Provided all the obligatory conditions of a ‘nikaah’ were
honored, the second marriage of your father will be deemed absolutely lawful
and legal in the Sight of Shariah Law and in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Your
Statement: ….we are studying and are dependant upon him but hate him
indefinately?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah
Bani Israel verses 23-24:
Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should
not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat
your parents with great kindness; if
either or both of them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and
pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them,
just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah
Luqman verse 14:
14 And We have enjoined
on mankind (to be good) to their parents: in travail
upon travail did his mother bear him and in years twain was his weaning: (hear
the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy
final) Goal.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.18 Narrated by Aisha
The Prophet (saws) said: "The word 'Ar-Rahm' (womb) derives its
name from 'Ar-Rahman' (i.e. Allah). So
whosoever keeps good relations with it (womb i.e. kith and kin), Allah will
keep good relations with him, and whosoever will sever it (i.e. severs
his bonds of kith and kin) Allah too will sever His relations with him!"
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the
‘Kabair’ (the absolute gravest sins in the Sight of Allah). He (saws) replied:
"They are:--
- To
join others in worship with Allah,
- To
be undutiful to one's parents,
- To
kill a person (which Allah has forbidden to kill) (i.e. to commit the
crime of murder),
- And
to give a false witness."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.290 Narrated by Abu Bakra
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said,
"Shall I inform you of the biggest of the Greatest sins?" They said, "Yes, O Allah's Messenger
(saws)!" He (saws) said, "To
join partners in worship with Allah, and to be undutiful to one's parents."
After the rights due to Allah and His Messenger (saws), in
Islam the biggest rights in all mankind are due to one’s parents. The enormity of being undutiful to one’s
parents can be imagined by the fact that The Messenger of Allah (saws) listed
being undutiful to one’s parents as the second gravest of all the gravest sins
in Islam!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3653 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr
The Prophet (saws) said, "An
undutiful son, a gambler, one who casts up what he has given, and one
who is addicted to wine will not enter
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3655 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "There
are three people to whom Allah has forbidden
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, absolutely regardless
of what one’s parents might have done or said in the past, absolutely
regardless of whether or not they fulfill their responsibilities towards their
off-spring or not, regardless of their conduct, or character, or
condition….their child, being one who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last
Day, should never never ever resent them, or be rude towards them, or break
relations with them, or say unto them even a harsh word!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah
Bani Israel verses 23-24:
Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should
not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat
your parents with great kindness; if
either or both of them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and
pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them,
just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”
My dear and beloved brother in Islam, absolutely
regardless of what one’s parents might have said or done in the past…it would
only be prudent for the believing off-spring to remember that this life is only
a place of test and a trial….and the honor of serving one’s parents is an
opportunity for the righteous to earn the ultimate reward of Paradise from
their Lord in the Hereafter.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated by Abu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah
(saws), what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or your
relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6189 Narrated
by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘Let him be
humbled into dust! Let him be humbled
into dust!’ It was said: ‘O Allah's Messenger (saws), who is he?’ He (saws) said: ‘He who sees either of his
parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter
Regardless of whatever one’s parents might choose to say
or do…… it just does not behove and befit one who sincerely believes in Allah
and the Last Day to treat them harshly, or Allah forbid, hate or disown
them! Allah is our witness brother,
there is only one crime and sin greater in the Sight of Allah than an
off-spring being rude, or manner-less, or harsh with their words and their
deeds with their parents….ie. ‘shirk’ or associating other gods with Allah
Subhanah!!!
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:
As for those who break
their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder
relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on
the earth, their’s shall be the curse,
and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:
And He leads astray
only those who disobey Allah, who break
Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what
Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the
Earth. These are indeed the people who
are the losers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws)
said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one
of the Names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the
one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and
sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb,
i.e. kith and kin).
It is absolutely impermissible, forbidden, and an
abomination of a sin in the Sight of Allah for one to break or sever any ties
or relationships of blood which the Lord Himself has created for them, leave
alone hating or breaking relations with one’s own father!!!
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, whatever might have
transpired between oneself and one’s parents in the past, whatever they might
have chosen to say or do unto their own off-spring, whatever the situation and
conditions….the believing off-spring, as one who fears Allah and the Last Day,
must never never ever say or do anything which would cause them even an iota of
pain and grief….if indeed they sincerely believe in Allah and the Last
Day. Only and only if one is satisfied
that their Lord Creator Himself will sever relations with him, should one ever
even contemplate of ever breaking or severing their relationship with their own
parents!!!! Such is the gravity of breaking or severing one’s blood
relationships in the Sight of Allah Subhanah! THIS IS WHAT ISLAM TEACHES!
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands
of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one
can be assured of never ever being misled;
but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than
that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led
astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister