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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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I was Hindu girl and married to a Muslim guy. My parents were against it but then they agreed. at the starting from my husband side there parents were good but then my mother in law she always keep on saying something as i am working women . after coming home i try to do as much work as possible then also she keeps on saying something she doesnt like the food which i prepare. now i am three month pregnant and it was very difficult to saty there so i left my husband place and start to saty with my parents. As my parents are Hindu she was not allowing to go to my parents place. i decided to take seprate home and stay there along with my husband. My husband he spoke to his parents regarding this but his parents told him that if he want to saty with me then he should not keep any relation with them and he is not ready for that. at this stage what should i do. May be his parents are palnning for his second marriage with a muslim girl.
i am very tensed at this stage. As i have doneintercast marriage i dont have any supports from my family. if you can guide me inthis.
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Marry hindu revert
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
In light of the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, the wife has absolutely no duty or responsibility laid upon her by Islam towards her husbands family or in-laws, including the husbands parents, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, etc. The responsibility and duty that Islam has laid upon the believing wife is only towards making sure that her husband is pleased and satisfied with her in every aspect of her life!
Thus, in essence, if a believing woman worships Allah
Subhanah as He Alone deserves to be worshipped, preserves her chastity, and
strives to the best of her ability to please her husband, the Messenger of
Allah (saws) declared that she will be given the honor to enter the
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a
woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her
chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of
Having said that she has absolutely no responsibility towards her husbands family, does not in any way mean or imply that she is allowed to be rude, or disrespectful, or dishonor them in any way. She must at all times strive to develop cordial relations with her in-laws.
But if the believing woman does, of her own free will, serves the parents or family of her husband, she would be doing a deed of ehsaan, a deed which would be over and above her prescribed duties and responsibilities; and Allah Subhanah has time and again declared in the Glorious Quran that He absolutely loves those believers who do ehsaan or deeds which are over and above their role of duty and responsibility.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imraan verse 134 (part):
134 . for Allah loves the muhsineen (those who do deeds over and above their call of duty).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imraan verse 148:
148 And Allah gave them a reward in this world and the excellent reward of the Hereafter. For Allah loves the muhsineen (those who do deeds over and above their call of duty).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 195 (part):
195 and do ehsaan; for Allah loves the muhsineen (those who do deeds over and above their call of duty).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 93 (part):
93 .. For Allah loves the muhsineen (those who do deeds over and above their call of duty).
The wife in Islam is absolutely under no obligation to take care or serve her husbands parents or family; the duty and ultimate responsibility that the parents are served and well cared for is entirely upon the direct off-spring of the parents.
But if the wife, of her own will and choice, wishes to go over and above her prescribed duties and in her benevolence serves the parents and/or family members of her husband, she would be doing the extremely meritorious deed of ehsaan; and Allah Subhanah absolutely loves those who do ehsaan or deeds over and above their prescribed duties.
If a husband is blessed with a wife who does ehsaan and serves his parents, he should be extremely grateful and thankful to her for her superb gesture of benevolence and kindness.
If the wife, for whatever reason does not wish to live amongst or with her in-laws, she is well within her rights in Islam to ask her husband to provide a separate and distinct accommodation for her, and there would be absolutely no blame or sin upon the wife if she chose to exercise her lawful right of seeking a separate accommodation for herself and her children. If the husband has the means, he should fear Allah and fulfill this lawful demand of his wife and provide for a separate accommodation for her.
The right the wife does not have is to demand or expect that her husband leaves his parents and comes and lives with her in the separate accommodation. Whether to live with his parents and serve them, or move to the separate accommodation of the wife and live with her is the decision and choice the husband has to make for himself.
Neither the husband, nor his parents, nor anyone in creation has the right in Islam to demand that the wife break as sever relations with her own parents, regardless of whether the parents of the wife happen to be believers or disbelievers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 6 (part):
Blood-relations amongst each other have closer personal ties in the Decree of Allah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:
As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth, theirs shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:
And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah, who break Allahs covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth. These are indeed the people who are the losers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,