Can an ex-christian marry a muslim girl?
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Assalamu`alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh I am a single Moslem guy from A Christian background ( my family are christian). I`ve been a moslem for 2 years and Alhamdulillah even though i still face problem with my family due to my decission to become a moslem My faith is ( and insya allah will always be)stronger everyday. I haven`t got a steady job and i`m still looking for one (Insya Allah i`ll get it as soon as possible) I have a girlfriend, a moslem one, from a Moslem background. I want to marry her.. and she wants me to marry her as well. But her parents dissagree because they fear that i might go back to `being a kaffir` again after we`re married, and they don`t want to have `family in law` who are not moslem. Not to mention that my family is,naturally, dissagree with my choosen lady because who she is. How can I convince her family (especially her father and mother in this case?) Is it possible for us to get married with a `Wali Hakim` (legal officer acting as the father replacement) Can we get married?
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Can an ex-christian marry a muslim girl?
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
First and foremost brother, please accept our congratulations for accepting the deen of Truth. May Allah Subhanah accept your conversion, increase your Faith, increase your knowledge, help you, guide you, and give you strength, wisdom and courage to face all the trials that might befall you for taking this Path of Truth. May Allah Subhanah make yours and our Emaan strong, and keep us all steadfast on the Path of Truth until we meet with our appointments of death. Ameen.
Your Question: How can I convince her family (especially her father and mother in this case?) Is it possible for us to get married with a `Wali Hakim` (legal officer acting as the father replacement) Can we get married?
In Islamic Law, a person who declares his testification of faith in Islam, can get married to a believing woman the next minute, if both parties are in agreement!
It is indeed unfortunate that due to ignorance or fear of society, some people are reluctant to give their daughters in marriage to a person who has sincerely accepted Islam as his faith, whereas the believers must be the first to welcome anyone who sincerely converts to Islam, as their brothers and sisters in faith. The first thing you should do is make sincere supplication to Allah Subhanah, and ask Him to help and guide you to the path that is good for you and the girl in this life and in the Hereafter.
If you are finding it difficult to convince the girls parents yourself, maybe you should seek the help of the brothers at local Islamic Guidance Centre, or the Imaam of the local mosque where you pray, or the muslim brothers or elders whom you might be close to, to talk to the girls parents and convince them that your conversion to Islam is here to stay, whether you marry their daughter or not!
If that does not work, then you may approach a Shariah Court and tell them your condition in full. If the Judge at the Shariah Court determines that the parents of the girl are against the marriage of their daughter to you for no genuine reason, he is well within his rights to become a wali himself, or appoint a wali and conduct your Nikaah or marriage ceremony.
Whatever path you take brother, please have patience, and do not fight, or abuse, or confront the girls parents if they do not agree to your proposal; for you must realize that they only want their daughter to be happy and parents always do things in the best interest of their children. The day they will realize and accept that your conversion to Islam is here to stay, and that your intentions in marrying their beloved daughter are nothing but honorable, and that their daughter too wants to marry you.they will regret their opposition and accept and honor you, Insha Allah, as their son-in-law.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,