Which woman to marry.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
Asalamualikum..
alhamdulilah i`m a practicing muslim. Is it permissible for me to marry a
muslim girl who is modern she knows the deen but by the influence of shaitan
she is away from it she wants to change but keeps disobeying allah.. if i get
married to such a girl with an intention tht may be staying with me in an
islamic environment she mite change is it ok and after marriage wht if i keep
guiding her and she doesnt listen eg. if i ask her to wear a burqa and she says
i will inshallah and then she doesnt will it be a sin on me as well..
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Answer:
Which woman to marry
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah
Maidah verse 5 (part):
(Lawful unto you in
marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among
the People of the Book revealed before your time: when ye give them their due
dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his
work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who are losers.
Dear and beloved brother, Allah Subhanah has permitted the
believers to marry any chaste eligible women from amongst the believers, or any
chaste eligible women from amongst the People of the Book (the Jews and the
Christians). Provided all the conditions
of a Shariah marriage are fulfilled, the marriage itself would be permissible,
lawful and legal in the Sight of Shariah.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated
by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is
married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and
her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you
will be a loser."
When choosing to marry from amongst the eligible women,
the Messenger of Allah (saws) guided and recommended the believers to seek and
strive to marry a righteous and religious woman. If one disobeys a direct command of Allah and
His Messenger (saws), it is obvious that they would be ruined in this world and
the Hereafter; but in our humble opinion, if one chooses to act against even an
opinion or recommendation of Allah and His Messenger (saws), Allah is our
witness brother, they would be utter losers.
Thus brother, in response to your question, if the sister
you wish to marry is from amongst the believers, or a Jew, or a Christian….rest
assured that the marriage itself would be considered lawful, legal, and valid
in the Sight of Shariah. But if you have
prior knowledge that the sister might be influenced by the Shaytaan, or that
she is away from the deen or negligent in following the dictates of the deen…..then
it would be best for you to take the ‘advice’ and ‘recommendation’ of the Noble
Messenger of Allah (saws) and seek to marry a pious and righteous woman, if
indeed you wish not to be a loser.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands
of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one
can be assured of never ever being misled;
but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than
that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led
astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan