I have a cristian girlfriend whom i intend to marry in future.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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I have a cristian girlfriend whom i intend to marry in future. I would like to request for some tools which could help me convey the message of islam to her. I would like her to be a muslim and therefor require some knowlegdge how to go about it. I have tried doing this on my personal skills but have always failed and land up arrguing. She is a very strong beleiver of christianity and needs some hard core evidences that makes her feel that islam is the true religion.
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:
(Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book (Jews and Chrisitans) revealed before your time, when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).
First and foremost brother, it would be purer for you and your Christian ‘girlfriend’ that you bring an immediate stop to your secret and unlawful relationship….for a believer to develop or maintain such intrigues are absolutely and categorically prohibited in Islam.
Secondly, a marriage between a believer and a chaste women from amongst the Jews and the Christians would be lawful in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah, even if the Christian sister does not revert to Islam before her marriage.
And finally, the absolutely best evidence you can present to the Christian sister is a copy of the translation of the Glorious Quran in the language she understands best….if the sister is indeed seeking the Truth, she would need to look no further than the Quran.
Beloved brother, all you can ever do is politely and with wisdom and patience, and in the best possible manner, invite someone to the Truth of Islam…..to accept or reject your invitation to the Truth of Islam is entirely dependant on the individual themselves, and above all, the Will of Allah Subhanah.
Allah says in the Holy Quran: Chapter 16, Surah An-Nahl Ayat 125:
Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and excellent admonition and argue with people in the best manner. Your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Way and who is Rightly guided.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 28 Surah Qasas verse 56:
You cannot guide whom you love, but Allah guides whomever He Pleases. And He (Allah) best knows those who would accept guidance.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,