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Wife demands husband break relations with his relatives.

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Dear Brother in Islam,

Assalam alaikum wa rehmatullah wa barakatuhu.

I am a married woman wid two children. I had written to you earlier too and this is somewhat related to my earlier mail. My in-laws have never been good to me, right from the time my marriage was settled upto now. We had an arrange marriage. What I have observed is that they dont love nor respect my husband also but this doesnt affect my husband at all. My in laws dont treat me well nor do they want my hubby to treat me well. I was tortured by each and every member of his family. My in laws do black magic too. First they didnt want me to be with my husband but Allah taala was with me and He failed them, second they didnt want me to have any children but again Allah Taala was wid me and he gave me a beautiful daughter.. When she was born and only a day old my in laws did black magic on her and my daughter suffered a lot not only sickness but I too used to ill treat her beat her etc. for which I regret from the bottom of my heart and ask for forgiveness from Allah Subhanataala. My in laws tried each and every possible way that my husband leave my daughter and me but they didnt succeed though my husband treated me the way they wanted but he never left me. Now I have a son and still the same problems are there. They dont want us to educate, clothe or feed our children. We live in abroad but during vacation whenever we meet them my husband stays wid his parents and I wid my children at my parent's house. After returning from vacation there is always fight in our house and it gets so severe that at times my husband throws me out of the house or I try to commit suicide or I dont wish to live with him and he treats children too badly and financially too we are left with nothing. Once  my husband confessed to me that he illtreats me the way they say coz he wants their love and sympathy but still he doesnt get it. I was very much hurt by this statement. My in laws are bad towards me only because we are in abroad and my husband earns a lot of money and they want it only for themselves but they are good to other daughters in law even if their husband's dont earn. Allah knows well dear Brother, that I have never done anything bad to them, inspite of their being bad to me I always did good to them but they dont seem to care not only for me but my children also which hurts me and makes me angry too.

Now again we are planning vacation and husband intends to meet his father and brothers. I am scared that again same things will start which I cannot tolerate. I dont want him to meet his family. I know it is wrong but at this stage of life if he listens to them n illtreats me and throws me out of house where will I go wid two kids and I have no one to look after me as well. I want to know will Allah taala forgive me if I dont let him meet his people? If he does then my children and I will become sufferers. Are they doing the right thing by trying to keep a father away from his children and a wife away from husband?  Please guide me as soon as possible.


Jazakallah khair


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Wife demands husband break relations with his relatives

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.


Your Question: Now again we are planning vacation and husband intends to meet his father and brothers. I am scared that again same things will start which I cannot tolerate. I dont want him to meet his family.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 6 (part):

Blood-relations amongst each other have closer personal ties in the Decree of Allah.


Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:

As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth, theirs shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.


Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:

And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah, who break Allahs covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth. These are indeed the people who are the losers.


Allah Subhanah has given no one the right to break, or conspire to break the blood relations which the Lord Himself has created for mankind..absolutely regardless of whatever might have transpired in the past, or whatever one fears might happen in the would be absolutely unlawful, illegal and a grave sin in the Sight of the Lord for you to take steps, or encourage your husband in any way whatsoever to disassociate or break relations with his blood-relatives.


Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).


Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, if only you could bring yourself to imagine your state when your own son should be blessed to grow up, marry, and have children.and your sons wife strove to keep your son from maintaining relations with you! It is upto your husband to fear his Lord, and make absolutely sure that all the rights that are due from him unto his blood relatives and especially his parents are fulfilled in full, without compromising the rights that are due from him unto his wife and his children..that would be piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, and that is what you should encourage and exhort him to do, if indeed you believe in and fear Allah and the Last Day.


To ask, or demand, or even so much so as hint that your husband break or weaken his relationship bond with his own blood relatives and especially his parents would be a sin in the Sight of the Lord beyond compare!


Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."


If (Allah forbid) you were to make such an unlawful demand upon your husband, and if (Allah forbid) your husband were to accede to your unlawful demand and break relations with his blood-relatives..both you, and especially your husband should prepare for an extremely severe accounting in the Presence of The Lord Most Majestic on that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment


Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated by Abu Umamah

A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws), what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or your relation with them will determine) your Paradise or your Hell."


Sahih Muslim Hadith 6189 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: Let him be humbled into dust! Let him be humbled into dust! It was said: O Allah's Messenger (saws), who is he? He (saws) said: He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise (through his deeds of service towards them)!


Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 5120 Narrated by Mu'awiyah ibn Hayadah

I asked: O Messenger of Allah(saws)! To whom should I show kindness most? He (saws) replied: Your mother. I asked (again): Who next?. He (saws) replied: Your mother!. I asked: Who next? He (saws) replied: Your mother! I asked again: Who next? and he (saws) replied: Your father, and then your relatives in order of relationship.


Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas

The Prophet (saws) was asked about the Kabair (the Absolute Gravest Sins in the Sight of Allah). He (saws) replied: "They are:--

To join others in worship with Allah,

To be undutiful to one's parents,

To kill a person (which Allah has forbidden to kill) (i.e. to commit the crime of murder),

And to give a false witness."


Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.290 Narrated by Abu Bakra

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Shall I inform you of the biggest of the Great Sins?" They said, "Yes, O Allah's Messenger (saws)!" He (saws) said, "To join partners in worship with Allah, and to be undutiful to one's parents."


Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3653 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr

The Prophet (saws) said, "An undutiful son, a gambler, one who casts up what he has given, and one who is addicted to wine will not enter Paradise."


Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3655 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "There are three people to whom Allah has forbidden Paradise: one who is addicted to wine, an undutiful son, and a cuckold who agrees to his womenfolk's adultery."


Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated byAbud Darda

When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."


Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.4 Narrated by Abdullah bin Amr

Allah's Messenger (saws) said. "It is one of the greatest sins that a man should curse his parents."


Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.9 Narrated by Abdullah bin Amr

The Prophet said, "Al-Kaba'ir (the Absolute Biggest Sins) are: To join others (as partners) in worship with Allah, to be undutiful to one's parents,and to take a false oath."


My dear and beloved Sister, we do sincerely apologize if our response to your question is unusually harsh and callous..but such is the enormity of this crime of breaking or conspiring to break blood-relations which the Lord Himself has created for mankind, that we, as your sincere well-wishers in faith had to make you aware in no uncertain terms regarding its abomination in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.


If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.


Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.


Your brother and well wisher in Islam,





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