I always knew that adultery is the worst sin that a Muslim woman can do and I did.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I reverted 3 years
I dont know too much about Islamic matters but I always knew that adultery is the worst sin that a Muslim woman can do and I did.
I felt so guilty that I didnt manage to stay with my husband anymore.
I went to live with my daughter in another house.
I kept on meeting the other man.
After a while I waited a baby and he told me to have an abortion.
My husband and I did divorce. I asked the other man not to call me anymore.
One month ago I met my husband. We went outside with our daughter and we were happy.
I told him about my sin and about abortion. He was angry but he understood my suffering.
I didnt tell him that I made that mistake before the divorce as he told me he would have killed me.
Now we would like to save our family but we dont know if we can overcome our past.
We dont know whether we can marry again.
I started to read the Noble Qur`aan to understand what I can do to be saved by Allah.
I found out that there is no forgiveness for my mistakes and I am so afraid of what I did.
I am so weak that I cant talk to him and I cant sleep in the night. I am so guilty for what I did and for that baby.
I asked Allah to forgive me but I know it is not enough. What I can do to be saved from hell?
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Zina and forgiveness
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved Sister in Islam, for what we have been able to understand you have posed two questions:
- Can a couple who are divorced re-marry according to Shariah Law?
- Can the abominations of zina (adultery) and abortion ever be forgiven by Allah Subhanah?
Question-1: Can a couple who are divorced re-marry according to Shariah Law?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 229-230:
229 A divorce is only permissible twice: after that the parties should either hold together on equitable terms or separate with kindness. It is not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts (from your wives) except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah. If ye (judges) do indeed fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah there is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained by Allah; so do not transgress them. If any do transgress the limits ordained by Allah such persons wrong (themselves as well as others).
230 So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably) he cannot after that remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced her. In that case there is no blame on either of them if they reunite provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah. Such are the limits ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who understand.
Shariah Law permits only three pronouncements of divorce in any one marriage, the first two of which are revocable and the third one is irrevocable.
If you and your have husband have obtained a divorce only once, and a time period of more than three menstruations have elapsed.the two of you are well within the Shariah Law to choose to remarry again by performing a brand new nikaah.
Question-2: Can the abominations of zina (adultery) and abortion ever be forgiven by Allah Subhanah?
Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, as grave and as heinous the crime and abomination of zina (adultery) and abortion may be in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.if one is sincerely ashamed and repentant, and turns unto their Lord in sincere taubah, it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Whatever deeds one might have done, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all: Shirk! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of the believer, He will change his evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
- Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of death.
- Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, Peace to you; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in death."
Thus my beloved Sister in Islam, never never never ever despair of the magnitude and vastness of the Mercy and Grace of your Lord Most Merciful..absolutely regardless of whatever sins one might have committed in ones past, if one turns to their Lord Most Gracious and seeks sincere repentance, it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,