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Assalam-o-alaikum bhai,

Mein apni bat urdu mein ker raha hon please ho sakay to isi tarah jawab dijiye ga.

Pehlay to mein yeh zaror kahon ga k app ko Allah mian bohat ajar dein gay.

Sir mein yeh kehna chahta hon k mujhey apni khala ki beti se bohat piyar hay or usey bhe mujh sey utni hi shidat se mohabbat hay….or ham donon jald shadi kerna chahtay hain. Meri cousin ki age 25 hay or meri bhe. Problem yeh hay k hamaray parents is taraf bilkul dhian nahi dey rahay. Mein apni cousin ko touch bhe kerta hon. Mujhey yeh bhe pata hay k islam hamain is bat ki ijazat nahi deta. Ham donon nay decide kia hay k ham donon apni “Nikah” ker lain. Or nikah mein apnay doston or meri cousin ki sister waghaira shamil hongay. Takay hamain jo aik dosray ko touch kernay say gunah hota hay who bhe sawab mein badal jaye or hamari zindagi mein sakoon aa jaye. Ham abhe koi sexual relation nahi rakhain gay jab tak hamaray maan baap meri cousin ko “rukhsat” nahi ker daitay. Bas aap se thori se rehnumai chahiye:

1. kya islam hamain is bat ki ijazat deta hay k ham yeh decision khud lain.
2. kya yeh “Nikah” jaiz hay, or is k baad meri cousin mujh per halal ho gi.
3. ham log “Sunni” hain, is baat ko bhe zehan mein rakhtay hoye rehnumai kerain please.
4. Mera sexually bhe apni cousin se bohat excite hota hon. Isi liye mein chahta hon k ham jald Nikah Ker lain……or chotay chotay gunahon se bachain.
5. App har mislay mein meri rehnumai jald az jald ker dain takay mein Nikkah ker sakon or ham donon aik ho jain.

Please app apni guidance mujhey is e-mail per send ker dain:

Mein aap ka bohat ehsaan mand honga.

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Answer:

Secret marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:

5 …. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).

Beloved Brother, the guidance of Islam Commands and Demands that the believers marry desiring chastity, not lewdness and secret intrigues! It is only those who are inclined towards the heinous and abomination of the evil of ‘zina’ who develop lewd and secret intrigues; for the sacred institution of marriage in Islam is a public affair whereby one is guided and commanded to openly declare one’s sacred association of marriage to the society one lives in by offering the ‘walima’ or marriage banquet or feast.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.395 Narrated by Anas

The Prophet (saws) seeing a yellow mark (of perfume) on the clothes of 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, said, "What about you?" 'Abdur-Rahman replied, "I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone." The Prophet (saws) said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima) even with one sheep."

To marry ‘secretly’ is to make a mockery of the sacred rite of marriage in the Sight of Allah Subhanah; and to perform the ‘nikaah’ with the same woman again only to hide their first ‘secret’ marriage is to add to the mockery one has already made of the Laws of Allah Subhanah!

Dear and beloved brother, if you and your fiancé wish to marry immediately and for whatever reason your or your fiancés parents wish to delay the marriage….you are well within your rights to request and beseech your parents to allow you to perform your ‘nikaah’ with your fiancé as soon as possible and do the ‘rukhsati’ at a later date of everyone’s convenience, a process which is absolutely acceptable and lawful in Shariah. The ‘nikaah’ would bind you and your fiancé in the sacred bond of marriage and everything that is lawful for a married couple would be absolutely lawful unto you.

As your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith, we implore you to fear Allah and whatever happens, do not take a route or path of the ‘secret’ marriage thus making a complete mockery of the Laws of Allah Subhanah.

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan