Ritual of first night in marriage.
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
do we have any
authentic hadith which describes that on the first night of wedding the husband
should keep his hansd on the brides forehead and recite some du,a . is it ? if
it is then please describe the complete hadith with the du,a
du,a should be writtn in arabic for the correct prononciatian.
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Ritual of first night in marriage
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Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.367 Narrated by Abdul Aziz
Thabit asked Anas, "O Abu Hamza! What did the Prophet pay her (as Mahr to his wife to be, Safiya bint Huyai)?" He said, "Her self was her Mahr for he (saws) manumitted her and then married her." Anas added, "While on the way, Um Sulaim dressed her (Hadrat Safiya) for marriage (ceremony) and at night she sent her as a bride to the Prophet (saws) . So the Prophet (saws) was a bridegroom and he said, 'Whoever has anything (food) should bring it.' He (saws) spread out a leather sheet (for the food) and some brought dates and others cooking butter. So they prepared a dish of Hais (a kind of meal). And that was the Walima (the marriage banquet) of Allah's Apostle (saws) ."
Al-Muwatta Hadith 28.47
Anas ibn Malik related that Abd ar-Rahman ibn Awf came to the Messenger of Allah (saws), and he had a trace of yellow on him. The Messenger of Allah (saws) asked about it. He told him that he had just been married. The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "How much did you hand over to her (as Mehr)?" He said, "The weight of a date pit in gold." The Messenger of Allah (saws) said to him, "Hold a feast, even if it is only with a sheep.
Other than holding a marriage feast or ‘Walima’ after one’s marriage, which is a preferred Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws), there are absolutely no rites or rituals which the couple are required to follow on their first night of marriage.
To the best of our knowledge there is absolutely no evidence in the authentic and established Sunnah that the Messenger of Allah (saws) ever kept his hands on the forehead of his bride and recited a specific supplication on their first night of marriage. This ritual has absolutely no basis or evidence in the Sunnah, and the believers who sincerely believe in Allah and the Last Day should abstain from this and all other self-invented rituas which have absolutely no basis or evidence from the Quran or the Sunnah.
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