Is there any Verse in Holy Quran, or any reference in Hadis Mubarak that Allah have made pairs in Heaven. And is there any Verse or Hadith that shows that a person having a good character and who is pious will get a wife with good character and for bad person.
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Is there any Verse in Holy Quran, or any reference in Hadis Mubarak that Allah have made pairs in Heaven. And is there any Verse or Hadith that shows that a person having a good character and who is pious will get a wife with good character and for bad person having poor character will get a wife with bad character. That is a good pious wife for a good pious man and vice versa. That is a person will get his wife of the same character and nature as he is himself. Kindly guide me in this regard.
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Marriage made in heaven
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Beloved Brother, what we recognize as destiny or fate is no more than the Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of Allah Subhanah which He has recorded with Him before anything came into creation. He Alone has the Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of the past, present and the future; and that Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of His is what is called destiny or fate or Qadr.
Thus, in a sense marriage is indeed destiny, for Allah Subhanah, in His Absolute and Perfect Knowledge, Knows which of his slave will marry whom in which particular age.
Because Allahs Knowledge is Absolutely Perfect, He Knows who will pair with whom in which time, age, and place, etc.; but it would not be an accurate statement to say that Allah Subhanah forces or compels one to marry a particular person; for whom one chooses to marry is a deed one choose for themselves, and thus one will be accountable for the choice one makes.
The Majestic Creator has bestowed two things upon man (and Jinns) which He has not bestowed upon any amongst His creation; and thus involved him in a test:
- Intelligence or the Power of Reasoning
- A free will to choose whatever path he wishes to follow in life
Whoever, with the bestowed intelligence recognizes his Lord and Creator, and of his own free will chooses to follow the path approved by Him will be shown Allahs Mercy and Grace. And Whoever denies his Lord and Creator, and of his own free will chooses to follow any other path than the approved path of the Lord, he will deserve the Wrath and Anger of the All-Mighty Lord.
Because the All-Knowing, All-Wise Lord has involved man in a test for a short period of one life, He has allowed man for this limited period, to choose his path and do deeds as one pleases. It is indeed true that Allah Subhanah knows exactly what each individual will do at every stage of his life, but that is because He has Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of everything of the past, present and future.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 6.474 Narrated by Ali ibn Abi Taalib
While the Prophet
(saws) was in a funeral procession, he (saws) picked up something and started
scraping the ground with it, and said, "There is none among you but has
his place written for him either in the Hell Fire or in
To fulfill the requirements of the test, man is permitted to use his intelligence and do deeds as he sees best for himself; and for this test of one transitory life, there is absolutely no compulsion upon him. The fate or predetermined will is no more than the Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of Allah Subhanah, whereby He Knows Perfectly well what each individual will do at every stage of his life. If man was compelled to do deeds according to fate or the pre-determined will, then it would not constitute a fair test, for man could then not be held accountable for his deeds!
When one is seeking a suitable partner in marriage, the guidance given by Islam is that one should use his intelligence and power of reasoning, and seek to marry a partner best suitable to him/her for the life of this world and the Hereafter.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman, (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption.'
Thus, although Allah Subhanah Knows exactly who will marry whom in His Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of everything in existence; man is under no compulsion. He has to use his intelligence and power of reasoning and choose the partner that is most suitable for him for his life in this world and the Hereafter. Had the choice of partners been pre-determined like ones parents, relatives, place of birth, place of death, etc., the Messenger of Allah (saws) would not have guided the believers to overlook the transient and short-lived aspects of wealth, and beauty, and lineage when seeking a partner in marriage; and choose a righteous religious woman if he indeed wanted to be successful in his marriage!
Whenever something is pre-determined, like ones looks, ones parents and relatives, ones place and time of birth or death, etc.; one has absolutely no choice in these matters, and thus neither has Allah and His Messenger (saws) given any guidance regarding the choices one should take to obtain maximum height, color, or looks, or to be born in a particular age, or household, or time, etc. Where one has no choice, one is neither guided towards a choice, nor is one held accountable for it.
But whenever one has been given an option or choice.what to believe in, whom to obey, what to eat, what is lawful, what is unlawful, etc.then not only has Allah and His Messenger (saws) given guidance one every aspect of that particular matter, but one will be held responsible for the choice one makes in the Court of Allah Subhanah.
Thus in effect, whom one chooses to marry is not from pre-determined fate or destiny, nor are marriages-made-in-heaven, nor is anyone compelled by Allah to marry.this is a decision and choice each person makes for himself, and because it is a choice and an option, Allah and His Messenger (saws) have guided the believers on every aspect of marriage.
Your Question: And is there any Verse or Hadith that shows that a person having a good character and who is pious will get a wife with good character and for bad person having poor character will get a wife with bad character.
Allah Subhanah has given each individual the choice to seek whom they wish to marry; and time and time again Allah and His Messenger (saws) have guided the believers to seek pious righteous and God-fearing people to marry. It is definitely within the range of possibility that a very pious man may choose to marry an impious woman, and a very pious woman may choose to marry one who is impious and evil!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 86 Surah Tahreem verses 10-11:
10 Allah sets forth for an example to the disbelievers: the wife of Nuh and the wife of Lut: they were (respectively) under two of Our righteous servants but they were false to their (husbands) and they profited nothing before Allah on their account but were told: "Enter ye the Fire (of Hell) along with (others) that enter!"
11 And Allah sets forth as an example to those who believe the wife of
Pharaoh (Hadrat Asiya): Behold she said: "O my Lord! Build for me in
nearness to Thee a mansion in the Garden (in
Who can be more pious and God-fearing than the
And furthermore, who can be more evil than the enemy of Allah and His Prophet Musa (a.s), the Pharaoh of Egypt, who in his utter ignorance and arrogance and defiance of Allah Subhanah claimed for himself: I am the Lord Most High!!!? But the woman he chose to marry, Hadrat Asiyah was amongst the most pious and God-fearing women who ever walked on this planet earth! Such is the status and rank of Hadrat Asiyah, the noble wife of the evil Pharaoh, that the Messenger of Allah (saws) included her name amongst the most pious and righteous women in the annuls of creation with the likes of Maryam, the mother of Prophet Isa (a.s.), and Khadijah (r.a.), the wife of Prophet Mohamed (saws), and Fatimah (r.a.) the noble daughter of the Prophet (saws)!
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 5.113 Narrated by Abu Musa Al Ashari
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Many amongst men attained perfection but amongst women none attained the perfection except Maryam the daughter of Imran (and mother of Prophet Isa (a.s.)), and Asiyah, the wife of Pharaoh.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 6181 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
The Prophet (saws) said, "Among the women of the universe, Maryam daughter of Imran, Khadijah daughter of Khuwaylid, Fatimah, daughter of Muhammad (saws), and Asiyah the wife of Pharaoh are enough for you!"
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
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