I would like to know that can we converse sexual language with wife.
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Sexual language with wife
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 223:
223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth (for sexual intercourse) when or how ye will.
Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife." The companions asked: O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded."
Related by Ahmad and Muslim.
Islam has allowed the husband and the wife in marriage every possible liberty to enjoy conjugal relations with each other, except three:
- It is strictly prohibited to have sexual intercourse with ones wife during her period of menstruation.
- It is strictly prohibited to enter the woman through her anus.
- Although there is no specific prohibition mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, the majority of the scholars in Islam have voiced their opinion against oral sex, whereby one touches the others private organs with their mouth.
Other than the above three restrictions, one may enjoy conjugal relations with ones wife any place, any time, and any how their hearts desire.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Muminoon verses 1-7:
1 The believers must (eventually) win through
2 Those who humble themselves in their prayers;
3 (and those) Who avoid vain talk;
4 (and those) Who are active in deeds of charity;
5 (and those ) Who scrupulously guard their private parts,
6 Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or (the captives) whom their right hands possess for (in their case) they are free from blame
7 But those whose desires exceed those limits are transgressors
There is absolutely no satr or hijaab or veil between a husband and a wife bonded in the sacred institution of marriage in Islam; and it is absolutely permissible and lawful in Shariah for a husband and a wife to see each other absolutely naked, and touch, and fondle, and play, and enjoy intimacy and intimate talk with each other any which way they please and desire, without any restrictions (except the three listed above) whatsoever.
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