Confirmation on Mehrams
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
This is with reference to your reply abot the question#1376.- "can first cousins marry".
I'd like to confirm about these Mehrams of a woman. You mentioned in your reply that the Mehram of a woman are:
1. Son in law
2. Father in law
3. step father
4. step sons (includes his sons, grand sons, etc.)
And the Mehrams of a Man are:
1. Daughter in law
2. Mother in law
3. Step mother
4. Step daughter (includes her daughters, and so on)
Can you please explain how come above is possible as i noticed most of the times that a woman does hijab esp. in front of Son-in-law ( & vice versa). And I also heard that when a step son/daughter becomes mature then hijab should be maintained. please clarify whether it's true regardless of their ages.
Please note that i'm just asking about the Mehram's (for Hijab) but not whether they can be married or not.. like the sister of wife can't be married though she is Non-Mehram for a man.
Thanks again for your valuable information/replies as it's very useful for those who've limited their lives to work & family matters and they can't find any time to attend religious meetings etc. and they follow what their elders or others follow regardless of right or wrong. And i've been sending to others who doesn't have email or they just have local email(within office).
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Confirmation on Mehrams
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Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verses 22-23:And do not marry at all those women whom your father had married, though what has happened in the past is excepted. This is an indecent and abominable thing and an evil practice.
Forbidden to you (in marriage) are your mothers, daughters, sisters, paternal aunts, maternal aunts, brothers daughters, sisters daughters, your foster mothers who have given suckle to you, your foster sisters who have taken suckle with you, the mothers of your wives, the daughters of your wives whom you have brought up, the daughters of your wives with whom you have conjugal relations, and it is not sinful for you to marry their daughters (after having divorced them). Also forbidden to you are the wives of your sons who are from your loins, and it is unlawful for you to keep two real sisters as wives at one and the same time, though what has happened in the past is excepted, for Allah is indeed Forgiving, Merciful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Nur verse 31:And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah that ye may attain Bliss.
Your question: Can you please explain how come above is possible as i noticed most of the times that a woman does hijab esp. in front of Son-in-law ( & vice versa).
Allah Subhanah declares in the above quoted aayah of Surah Nisaa .Forbidden to you (in marriage) are.. the mothers of your wives..
The commandment of Allah Subhanah in the above aayah is extremely clear that the son-in-law is a mehram of his wifes mother; and there is no need for her to do hijab in the presence of her son-in-law. In fact, the son-in-law, even if he divorces his wife, will forever remain a mehram with his mother-in-law and can never ever marry the mother of even his ex-wife!
Your question: And I also heard that when a step son/daughter becomes mature then hijab should be maintained. please clarify whether it's true regardless of their ages.
In front of children until they reach the age of puberty, the woman does not have to maintain hijaab regardless of her relationship with them. This is clear from the above quoted verse of Surah Nur: .or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex..
There is no hijab between a husband and his wifes daughters from another marriage; nor is there any hijab between a wife and her husbands sons from another marriage; regardless of the age of their step-sons and daughters. This is clear from the above quoted verse of Surah Nur: their husbands' sons...
Your Comments: Thanks again for your valuable information/replies as it's very useful for those who've limited their lives to work & family matters and they can't find any time to attend religious meetings etc. and they follow what their elders or others follow regardless of right or wrong. And i've been sending to others who doesn't have email or they just have local email(within office).
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Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah Luqman verse 21:And when it is said to them, Follow what Allah has sent down, they say, We shall only follow that upon which we found our forefathers. What! Will they still be following them even if Shaitaan had been calling them to the raging Fire?
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