With a wife who blame me always tell me bad word.
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can you tell what should i do ?with a wife who blame me always tell me bad word and and dont respect me.
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What to do with abusive wife
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:
34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their husbands honor, property, etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: Had it been permissible that a person may prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a
woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her
chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.28 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
The Prophet (saws) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He (saws) replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you!"
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, as much as Allah and His Messenger (saws) have time and time again Commanded and Guided the husbands to love, honor, cherish, and deal with kindness, tenderness, patience, justice, and mercy to those under their authority (their wives, their children, etc.)Islam guides that one of the absolutely obligatory duties of a righteous and believing wife, if indeed she fears Allah and the Last Day and desires entry into the Realms of Paradise in the Hereafter.is that she is devoutly obedient to all the lawful commands of her husband.
If the husband sincerely fears Allah and strives to fulfill all his obligatory duties in marriage but finds oneself bonded in marriage with a woman who cannot bring herself to honor, respect and obey the lawful commands of her husband, but rather finds her constantly dishonoring and abusing him, the husband is well within his rights in Islam to separate from such a disobedient and abusive wife through a divorce, and there would be no sin upon him.
For those who wish to exercise the option of divorce, Islam guides that just as two people who once chose to unite in the sacred bond of marriage with love, and mercy, and honor, and kindness, and generosity..if indeed they wish to separate from each other through divorce, they should fear Allah their Lord and separate with mercy, honor, kindness, generosity and liberality..that would be akin to piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,