Sir i have a question while having sex we can kiss and love our wife vagina is it permisible or not and what is notpermisible in during having sex guide me.
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have a question while having sex we can kiss and love our wife vagina is it
permisible or not and what is notpermisible in during having sex guide me
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Sex liberties
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 223:
223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so
approach your tilth when or how ye will.
Islam has allowed the husband and the wife bonded in the
sacred institution of marriage every possible liberty to enjoy conjugal
relations with each other, except three:
- It
is strictly prohibited to have sexual intercourse with one’s wife during
her period of menstruation.
- It
is strictly prohibited to enter the woman through her anus.
- Although
there is no specific prohibition mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, the
majority of the scholars in Islam have voiced their opinion against ‘oral’
sex, whereby one touches the other’s private organs with their mouth.
Other than the above three restrictions, one may enjoy
conjugal relations with one’s wife any place, any time, and any how their
heart’s desire.
‘Oral Sex’ is an act which is obviously unnatural,
unhealthy, unhygienic, unclean, impure and this act is not found even in any of
the lower animate creations!
Because oral sex is a new deviation of mankind, it finds
specific mention neither in the Quran nor the Sunnah!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah
Aaraaf verse 157:
157 Those who follow the Messenger, the ‘Ummi’ (unlettered) Prophet
(Mohammed (saws)) whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures); in the Law
and the Gospel; for he (Prophet Mohamed (saws)) commands them what is just and
forbids them what is evil: he allows them as lawful what is ‘tayyibaat’
(good and pure) and prohibits them from what is ‘Khabaayith’ (bad, evil and
impure); He releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes
that are upon them. So it is those who
believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down
with him: it is they who will prosper."
But since the permissibility/impermissibility of this
specific act of what is known today as ‘oral sex’ is not mentioned by name or
act anywhere in the Quran and the Sunnah, the God-fearing and the pious amongst
the scholars in Islam have abstained from declaring it ‘haraam’; the most they
have said is that the act is from the ‘khabaaith’ (impure) and thus closer to
the haraam than to the halaal, and the believers should fear Allah and abstain
from it.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.267 Narrated by An Numan bin Bashir
The Prophet (saws) said "Both the halaal
(lawful) and the haraam (unlawful) things are (made) obvious, and in between
them are (suspicious) doubtful matters.
So whoever forsakes those doubtful things lest he may commit a sin, will
definitely avoid what is clearly unlawful; and whoever indulges in these
(suspicious) doubtful things bravely, is likely to commit what is clearly
illegal. Sins are Allah's Hima (i.e.
private pasture) and whoever pastures (his sheep) near it, is likely to get in
it at any moment."
Beloved brother in Islam, given the unbelievable liberty
Islam has granted to the husband and the wife to enjoy conjugal relations in
their sacred bond of marriage, in our humble opinion, it would be best for the
believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day to strive to abstain from
this doubtful act of ‘oral sex’; and Allah Alone Knows Best.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister