I want to ask you that if a married woman who is not happy with her marriage life but still compromising with her married life to go on, meets another man and falls in love.
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I want to ask you that if a married woman who is not happy with her marriage life but still compromising with her married life to go on, meets another man and falls in love, and does not commit any sin, I mean, no bodily interaction, but just loving that person in heart and that person also knowing that she loves him, and he also loves her, is this a wrong action or sin according to Islam?? I may mention that this woman is only compromising with her married life for her children`s sake and do not want to get a divorce from her husband. Is loving another man besides husband is a sin or not?
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Loving another after marriage
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Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, when one man and one woman bind and unite themselves to the sacred institution of marriage, it would neither be morally right nor righteousness that one amongst them starts an unlawful relationship with another out of marriage. Allah is our witness sister, the forming of such a secret and lewd intrigue with another out of marriage would be amongst the gravest crimes and sins a human being can commit in the Sight of Allah Subhanah!
If one unfortunately finds oneself in an unhappy marriage, and chooses to honestly commit to their marriage and compromises only for the sake of Allah or their children, and bears their condition with patience.they shall have their due reward for their patience with Allah Subhanah.
But if for any reason one does not wish to compromise, Islam has left open the route of divorce, whereby one may free herself from her marriage contract and choose to marry anyone she wills to marry. But to choose to remain married with one person, and form an initiate or a secret and unlawful relationship with another person out of marriage, would indeed be a grave sin and an absolute abomination in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Your Question:..meets another man and falls in love, and does not commit any sin, I mean, no bodily interaction, but just loving that person in heart and that person also knowing that she loves him, and he also loves her, is this a wrong action or sin according to Islam??
Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, the nature that man was created in simply does not allow that two non-mehrams form a relationship, love each other, and are not physically or mentally attracted towards each other! The direct repercussions of such an unlawful and lewd relationship would without an iota of a doubt lead to the doors of zina (adultery)..a crime which is so hated and so despised by Allah Subhanah that He has prescribed capital punishment in the life of this world for those who are found guilty of this heinous crime; and their accounting with Him on the Day of Judgment will severe beyond imagination!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go near zina (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,