I have already asked many question and i must thank you for all your answers, may allah shower you in his blessings. ok now i just have a question for you, actually its not a question, im about to get married in another 3 months, i just want you to give me some advices about first nite.
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assalamu alaikum, i have already asked many question and i must thank you for all your answers, may allah shower you in his blessings. ok now i just have a question for you, actually its not a question, im about to get married in another 3 months, i just want you to give me some advices about first nite. i heard that there are some prayers.. some recitings and some religious things to be done before having sex with the leagal wife, i dont know what to request from you but i just want to know all religious things of a muslim marriage first nite,
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Things to do on first night of marriage
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Your Question: ….i just want to know all religious things of a muslim marriage first nite,
If the couple wish to pray voluntary (nafl) prayers of gratefulness to Allah Subhanah on the first night of marriage (or any night, or every night, etc.), there is absolutely no harm.
But there is absolutely no evidence in the Quran or Sunnah, whereby they are required to pray any specific prayer on the first night of marriage. Some misguided sects in Islam have made a ritual out of this, and demand that the bride and/or groom pray two rakahs of gratefulness, and they use the ‘sherwani’ or outer garment of the groom as the prayer-mat or ‘musalla’! This ritual has absolutely no basis or evidence in Islam, and the believers should abstain from this and all other self-invented rituals which have absolutely no basis or evidence from the Quran or the Sunnahl.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.367 Narrated by Abdul Aziz
Thabit asked Anas, "O Abu Hamza! What did the Prophet pay her (as Mahr to his wife to be, Safiya bint Huyai)?" He said, "Her self was her Mahr for he (saws) manumitted her and then married her." Anas added, "While on the way, Um Sulaim dressed her (Hadrat Safiya) for marriage (ceremony) and at night she sent her as a bride to the Prophet (saws) . So the Prophet (saws) was a bridegroom and he said, 'Whoever has anything (food) should bring it.' He (saws) spread out a leather sheet (for the food) and some brought dates and others cooking butter. So they prepared a dish of Hais (a kind of meal). And that was the Walima (the marriage banquet) of Allah's Apostle (saws) ."
Al-Muwatta Hadith 28.47
Anas ibn Malik related that Abd ar-Rahman ibn Awf came to the Messenger of Allah (saws), and he had a trace of yellow on him. The Messenger of Allah (saws) asked about it. He told him that he had just been married. The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "How much did you hand over to her (as Mehr)?" He said, "The weight of a date pit in gold." The Messenger of Allah (saws) said to him, "Hold a feast, even if it is only with a sheep.
There are no particular rituals for the marriage night in Islam, other than holding a marriage feast or ‘Walima’ after one’s marriage, which is a preferred Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws). Islam has made the issue of marriage extremely simple, and other than the giving of a ‘walima’ feast to announce the marriage, there is absolutely no religious rite or ritual one is obligated or required to perform after the marriage. Some misguided sects in Islam have made the act of marriage an elaborate affair with tens of self-invented rituals and rasms which are copied from pagan customs and have absolutely no basis or evidence from the Quran or Sunnah, and the believers must abstain from following all such pagan rituals.
Your Question: …some recitings and some religious things to be done before having sex with the leagal wife,
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.493 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
The Prophet (saws) said, "If anyone of you, when having sexual relation with his wife, says: 'Bismillah. Allah humma jannib nas-Shaytaan wa jannib nas-Shaytaanap feema razaktana’ (In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from the Shaytaan and prevent the Shaytaan from approaching that which (our offspring) You provide us,) and if they beget a child (as a result of that relation) Shaytaan will not (be able to) harm it."
The Messenger of Allah (saws) guided the believers to seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Shaytaan for themselves and their off-spring whenever they intend to conjugate with their wives, regardless of whether it is their first night of marriage or at any other time during their married lives.
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,