I have been having erotic dreams (even while fasting!)
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I have been having erotic dreams (even while fasting!), I believe it is due to the fact that I am not yet married as I have not yet found a suitable mate. When these dreams occur, I sometimes have secretions. I know when males have these wet dreams, they are required to perform Ghusl before praying, does this apply to women as well?
Also, as these dreams occur even when I am fasting, what should I do to try to stop having them at all?
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Wet dream fast ghusl
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Your Question: I know when males have these wet dreams, they are required to perform Ghusl before praying, does this apply to women as well?
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith1.132 Narrated by Um Salama, the wife of the Prophet (saws)
Um-Sulaim came to Allah's Messenger (saws) and said, "Verily, Allah is not shy of (telling you) the truth. Is it necessary for a woman to take a ghusl (full bath) after she has a wet dream (nocturnal sexual discharge?) The Prophet (saws) replied, "Yes, if she notices a discharge." Um Salama, then covered her face and asked, "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! Does a woman get a (sexual) discharge (too)?" He (saws) replied, "Yes.
If a woman has a wet dream, and she notices a discharge, it is absolutely obligatory for the believing woman to purify herself with a ghusl or full bath before she makes herself available for prayer.
Your Question: Also, as these dreams occur even when I am fasting,
The absolute majority of the scholars and jurists in Islam are of the opinion that if one were to intentionally and voluntarily release ones full sexual discharge (mani) through sexual intercourse or masturbation, it would indeed invalidate ones fast.
But if one experiences an involuntary sexual discharge or wet-dream during the hours of fasting, that does not invalidate ones fast in the least. One who experiences a wet-dream while fasting should continue their fast till sunset, and purify themselves with a ghusl before they make themselves available for prayer.
Your Question: what should I do to try to stop having them at all?
Beloved Sister in Islam, the involuntary wet-dream discharge is natural process whereby the body releases the sexual discharge of the man or the woman. Because a wet-dream discharge is beyond ones control, its occurrence is not considered a sin in Shariah.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah
We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
The absolute best way of avoiding the occurrence of wet-dreams is to marry, and if for a genuine reason one is unable to marry, then one should keep fasts as fasting diminishes ones sexual power.
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