Is dowry haraam in Islam?
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brothers/sisters has asked this question:
hello i just wanted to know that is dowry haram
in islam. isnt
it a hindu ritual. and if it
is then why have we muslims taken it from them. they say tht the man should take
care of all the wedding expenses and whtever the
girls parents give her should be taken as a gift adn
not dowry. i dont how much of all thsi is true
but if u could pls clarify this i
would be really grateful because i personally dont believe in dowry. thank you
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Answer:
Is dowry haraam
in Islam?
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The English term dowry according
to the Oxford Dictionary means ‘the property or money brought by a bride to her
husband.’
Your question: i just wanted to
know that is dowry haram in islam. isnt
it a hindu ritual.
The Shariah
term ‘mehr’ is translated into dowry, but does not have
the same connotation. In Islam, it is an obligatory
condition of marriage that the man fix and pay an amount to his wife, according to his means or according to his
wife’s demand, at the time of marriage
as a gift.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 4: And give the women (on marriage) their dower as
a free gift; but if they of their own good pleasure remit any part of it to you
, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.
This Mehr
is a right of the wife,
and she may spend it as she wills. It is impermissible for the husband to
demand the mehr back,
or take it away from his wife after his marriage, or if he divorces her or marries again; but if of her own free will and good
pleasure, the wife wishes to share the mehr amount with her husband, there is no harm.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verses 20-21:
20 But if ye decide to take one wife in place of another, even if ye had
given the latter a whole treasure for dower,
take not the least bit of it back:
would ye take it by slander and a manifest wrong?
21 And how could ye take it when ye have gone in
unto each other, and
they have taken from you a solemn covenant?
In the Hindu ritual and culture, the exact opposite
is done. The husband demands the dowry
and the wife and her parents have to pay it!
But in Islam,
the wife does not have to pay one single cent, but rather she has been given the right to
demand and receive the ‘mehr’ as a condition of
marriage.
Your question: and if it is then
why have we muslims taken it
from them.
The wife and her family being
extorted for amounts of dowry might be a Hindu ritual and customs, and has nothing to
do with Islam.
In Islam, the man is required to bear and pay
all the expenses of the marriage,
including ‘mehr’ to his wife.
Your question: they say tht the
man should take care of all the wedding expenses and whtever
the girls parents give her should be taken as a gift adn
not dowry.
Indeed, all the financial responsibilities of
the marriage, the walima
or marriage feast, the ‘mehr’, etc. is the
responsibility and duty of the man. The
woman will not have to spend even one cent on the marriage!
Although they do not have any
obligations whatsoever,
if the girl’s parents,
absolutely of their own free will and without any open or secret
coercion, wish to give something to
their daughter and her husband; they may
accept and enjoy it.
But if the husband or his family
put any sort of open or secret pressure and extort any gifts out of the girl’s
parents or family, it would be just like
following the pagan ‘dowry’ system, and
they will have to give a severe accounting in the Court of Allah Subhanah for their extortion! The pagan Hindu system or culture of ‘dowry’ whereby the
man or his family demands money or gifts from the girl’s family has absolutely
no basis or place in the deen of Islam.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan