Iwant to ask u during marriage ceremony khutba
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Iwant to ask u during marriage ceremony khutba and some quraan aayaats are recited what are those ayaats pls tell me with meaning and reference.
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What is the khutba sermon of nikaah marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
The truth is sister, that neither is a khutba or sermon a part of the ceremony of Islamic Nikaah, neither is it required, nor is there any evidence that the Messenger of Allah (saws) read, recited, or gave a sermon everytime a Nikaah was performed.
The obligatory conditions of marriage or nikaah is the proposal by one party and acceptance by the other, the determination of mehr, availability of at least two witnesses to the marriage contract, and (according to some schools of thought) the availability of the wali or guardian of the bride. If the above obligatory conditions of marriage are met and honored, the nikaah between the couple would be legal, lawful, and valid in the Sight of Shariah and Allah Subhanah.
The brothers and scholars who perform the Nikaah take this joyous occasion as an opportunity to remind the gathering of Allah Subhanah and His favors, recite some verses from the Holy Quran, or narrate some hadiths of guidance relating to the rights of the husband and wife in marriage to guide the couple being married and those gathered; and there is absolutely no harm if one wishes to do so.
Thus in essence, there is absolutely no such thing in Shariah as a specific khutba or sermon of nikaah, nor is one obligatory, nor a requirement of the ceremony of nikaah.
Some amongst the verses or hadeeths one is likely to hear in the nikaah are:
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 1:
1 O mankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord Who created you from a single person created of like nature his mate and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men and women; reverence Allah through Whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (that bore you): for Allah ever watches over you.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 228:
Wives have the same rights as the husbands have on them in accordance with the generally known principles. And men are a degree above them; and above all is Allah, the All Mighty, All Wise.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:
Men are the managers of the affairs of women because Allah has made the one superior to the other, and because men spend of their wealth on women. Virtuous women are , therefore, obedient (to their husbands); and they guard in his absence what Allah would have them guard (their honor, their property, etc.)
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21:
And of Allahs Sign is that He has created for you wives from your own species, so that you may find peace with them, and (Allah has) created love and mercy between you. Surely in this there are many Signs for those who reflect.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3252 Narrated by Aisha ; Abdullah ibn Abbas
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3264 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: "The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition, and the best of you are those who are best to their wives."
It is reported that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said in an authentic narration: The whole world is a provision (from Allah), and the best of the provisions is a righteous wife.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (saws) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
Beloved sister, we reiterate again that the khutba or sermon at the time of nikaah is neither a condition nor an obligation for the nikaah to be valid in the Sight of Shariah Law; but if one performing the ceremony takes this opportunity to Praise and Glorify Allah, and guide the people towards taqwa and piety, there is absolutely no harm in them doing so.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,