Should a wife follow her husbands orders even if they are against islam ?
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should a wife follow her husbands orders even if they are against islam ?
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Obey husband against islam
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Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."
The usool or principle in Islam is that no command or order of any in creation will be followed if its obedience involves the disobedience of the Creator; regardless of whether that command was made by ones parents, or ones husband, etc.
If ones husband (or anyone in creation) were to order or command his wife to do (or abstain from doing) something which is against the Commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws); then the wife should not obey that specific command of her husband..but in all other matters, she will fulfill all her lawful duties unto him.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:
34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to her husband) and guards in (her husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their honor, their husbands property, etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (saws) was asked which woman was best, he (saws) replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a (lawful) command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
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