I have been involved in a wrong act of sex with my male cousin
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Brhaan Bahi !
God bless & i pray to Allah that u should get his favour throughout your life & the life hereafter becuase of the work you are doing for the Muslim brothers.
Sir I have a serious problem to discuss with you
Sir iam a male & Sir i have been involved in a wrong act of sex with my male cousin . Sir i always feel really sorry whenever i do such a wrong act with my cousin but Sir i can`t stop . Sir i know that this is strictly forbidden by Allah & there is great threat to a person who does such an act in this world as well as in the life hereafter . But Sir please help me & guide me that how i can stop myself from doing such a wrong act . Please sir reply me quickly i am anxiously waiting for your reply
Thank You Very MUch
& GOD Bless You
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May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth. If our humble and modest efforts have helped even one brother or sister get closer to Allah and His Deen of Truth, then we would consider ourselves indeed fortunate to have been given this opportunity by the Lord Most Merciful to serve in His Cause. We hope, beg, and pray the Merciful Lord accepts our humble and weak efforts, forgives us our shortcomings, and saves you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.
Regardless of whatever deeds one might have done in ones past, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness before ones appointment of death, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer.
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
- Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of death.
- Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, Peace to you; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Your Question: But Sir please help me & guide me that how i can stop myself from doing such a wrong act
My dear and beloved brother in Islam, it is in the nature of the human soul or the nafs that it is always inclined towards error, evil, and sin. Thus it is never an expectation that one who is human will never sin; but what is indeed expected from the righteous believers is that whenever ones heart inclines towards sin, he immediately remembers his Lord Creator and fears that One Inevitable day he will be gathered in His Majestic Presence to give a full accounting of his deeds; thus he immediately turns back to his Lord in sincere repentance and seeks forgiveness for his sins.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: All of the Children of Adam are sinners; and the best (or most loved) sinners in the Sight of Allah are those who constantly turn to Him seeking forgiveness.
Thus, my beloved brother, there is only one thing that can prevent one from falling into sin: and that is the constant fear and consciousness that One Inevitable Day every soul will be gathered and brought forth in the Majestic Presence of the All-Mighty and All-Just Lord to give a full accounting of ones deeds.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 79 Surah Naziat verses 34-41:
34 Therefore when there comes the Great Overwhelming (Event; ie. The Day of Judgment)
35 The Day when Man shall remember (all) that he strove for
36 And Hell-Fire shall be placed in full view for (all) to see
37 Then for such as had transgressed all bounds
38 And had preferred the life of this world
39 Their Abode will be Hell-Fire;
40 And for such as had entertained the fear of standing before their Lord's (Tribunal) and had restrained (their) soul from Lower Desires
41 Their abode will be the Garden.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.49 Narrated by An Numan bin Bashir
I heard Allah's Messenger (saws) saying, (O people!) Beware! Every king has a Hima (private pasture) and the Hima of Allah on the earth is His illegal (forbidden) things. Beware! There is a piece of flesh in the body if it becomes good (reformed) the whole body becomes good, but if it gets spoilt the whole body gets spoilt and that is: the heart!
Your Question: please help me & guide me that how i can stop myself from doing such a wrong act
My beloved brother, the only thing that can restrain one from doing sin is the constant fear of standing in the Majestic Presence of Allah Subhanah on an Inevitable and Tumultuous Day to give a full accounting of ones deeds. And the best way to develop this fear and consciousness of the Lord is to constantly remember Allah; and the best way to constantly remember Allah Subhanah is to read, understand, obey, follow, and submit to the clear Guidance of the Glorious Words of Allah Subhanah; ie. the Quran.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 185:
Ramadan is the month in which the Quran was sent down: this Book is a Perfect Guidance for mankind and consists of clear Teachings which show the Right Way, and are a Criterion of the Truth and falsehood.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 16 Surah Nahl verse 89:
We have sent down to you this Book, which makes everything plain, and is a guidance, blessing and good news to those who have surrendered themselves entirely.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 14 Surah Ibrahim verses 1-2:
This is a Book which We have sent down to you (O Prophet) that you may bring mankind, by the help of their Lord, out of the dark ways (of ignorance) into the Light (of knowledge), to the Way of that Lord, Who is All Powerful, and inherently All Praiseworthy, and the Owner of whatever is in the heavens and the earth.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,