Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

I am a Muslim guy and i have been with a Hindu girl for 2 years and we only met 3 times but in those 3 times we spent 2 nights together,we heard from someone that if you spend a night together with each other before you get married then you cant get married, but actually we did not even reach to point where you call it sex but still were spent a night together so can you please let us know that if that is true or not, and how can we make up for this because we really love each other alot and like we explained that we are in different states too,so we are not even gonna meet for atleast 2 to 3 years, but after we are done with school we want to be involved in long term ralation ship and get married, so can you please help us with that.

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Answer:

Muslim marry hindu girl

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5 (part):

5 …..(Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221 (part):

221 Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters) until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman even though she allure you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than un unbeliever even though he allure you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the fire. But Allah beckons by His grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His praise.

Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, it is absolutely impermissible and prohibited in Islam for a believer to marry a ‘mushrik’ (idolater) woman, unless she, of her own free will, chooses to revert to Islam.

The marriage of a believer with a hindu or any ‘mushrik’ (idolater) woman will be deemed unlawful, null and void in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, Shariah Law and the believers; the relationship between such a couple will be one of ‘zina’ (fornication); the children resulting from such an unlawful marriage will be illegal; and the transgressors who intentionally violate the boundaries of Allah Subhanah will be held severely accountable in the Majestic Presence of the Lord on an Inevitable and Tumultuous Day.

Your Question: we heard from someone that if you spend a night together with each other before you get married then you cant get married,

The guidance of Islam absolutely prohibits a believer, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to form a casual relationship or friendship with a non-mehram woman, leave alone spend time with her alone! As much as Islam absolutely detests and prohibits a believer from forming an illicit relationship or spending a night alone with a non-mehram woman out of marriage, there is nothing in Shariah which declares that the two, if eligible contenders for marriage, cannot marry each other.

The issue here of the marriage being unlawful is not because the two of you have chosen to do the unthinkable and spend a night together out of marriage, but your marriage with the Hindu sister would be illegal because she is a ‘mushrik’ (idolator), and Shariah Law absolutely prohibits and does not recognize a marriage contract between a muslim and a ‘mushrik’.

Your Question: but after we are done with school we want to be involved in long term ralation ship and get married, so can you please help us with that.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221 (part):

221 Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters) until they believe

Beloved brother, the one and only way a believer can legally and lawfully marry a ‘mushrik’ woman, is that the woman, of her free will and choice, accepts Islam as her way of life first.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan