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When i read namaz at home i can almost always cry when i do my dua and i really get very emotional.

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Thank you for this wonderful service. May allah reward you in this life and the hereafter (ameen). I am a sister in her early twenties and have recently come back from hajj. It was the most amazing time of my life. I just wanted to ask a few questions in relation to hajj and some other random questions.

 

1) When i read namaz at home i can almost always cry when i do my dua and i really get very emotional. But i found that when i went for hajj, i couldnt do that, and i got very frustrated because i have read that u should cry when u do dua (genuinely offcourse) because a dua which truly comes from your heart is accepted. but i couldnt cry when i was there. I did a few times but not enough. also the Kaaba is such an amazing thing to look at and even when i was looking at it, gazing at it and going around it doing my tawaaf, it was all so surreal that it felt like i wasnt really there or this wasnt all true. i used to keep telling myself "u are looking at the Kaaba, you are in the most blessed places of all" but a lot of the time i couldnt apprehend that it was all tru. it was like a dream. Was this right? i mean i have fulfilled all the obligations of hajj and like i said i had the time of my life but these couple of things have really disturbed me.

 

2) I dont wear a hijab and since coming back from hajj i have been driving myself crazy, literally mad because half of me wants to wear the hijaab desperately, and i feel out of place if i go somewhere without my head covered, even when everyone else is also a non hijabi or a non muslim, it makes me feel filthy. but then at the same time really superficial things stop me from wearing it. things like on my wedding day i wont be able to take it off and stupid things like that, and i feel so ashamed of myself. i dont know what to do brother and this is causing me a lot of greif. please help me, tell me what i should do, i am constantly fighting myself and i fear i will go mad soon enough.

 

3) Im sorry for asking too many questions but is there hadith by the prohet (saw) in which he encourages mixed race marriages between muslims? i was watching a program the other day in which it was said that the prophet (saw) encouraged mixed marriages because it was good for the unity of the ummah. but then again i have heard that the prophet didnt encourage it because difference of cultures can be the cause of a divorce.

 

4) Some people say that people like mother theresa, princess diana and other very noble persons wont go to heaven because thet arent muslims. is that tru? will allah disregard all the other good things they have done in their life because they didnt accept islam? what about people like michael mansfield the QC who fights for muslims and people like George Galloway and other non muslims who help muslims? what will be of them?

 

Jaza kulla khair for your time brother. I really appreciate it.

 

Your sister in Islam.

 

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Sister advice on hajj dua, hijjab, etc

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth. If our humble and modest efforts have helped even one brother or sister get closer to Allah and His Deen of Truth, then we would consider ourselves indeed fortunate to have been given this opportunity by the Lord Most Merciful to serve in His Cause. We hope, beg, and pray the Merciful Lord accepts our humble and weak efforts, forgives us our shortcomings, and saves you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.

 

Firstly, Your Statement: Im sorry for asking too many questions

Beloved sister in Islam, never ever hesitate or apologize for asking any questions in the deen; for the deen or way of life called Al-Islam is based on the Perfect Wisdom and Knowledge of the All Knowing Lord, and every single command of the All Wise Lord is abundant in common-sense and logic. Asking any type of questions in Islam to gain more knowledge, or to confirm the Truth so that ones heart is more content, or to understand and thus follow with more conviction the dictates of the deen is not only permissible, but absolutely encouraged in Islam. It is the right of the brother or sister to ask anything they wish to clarify in the deen; and it is the responsibility and duty of the good scholars to address the question asked to the best of their knowledge and ability, and in the most polite and humble manner.

 

What is discouraged in Islam is if one asks questions for the sake of asking, or arguing to ridicule the Truth with absolutely no intention of obeying or following when the Truth is made clear to them, etc. But if one asks questions to clarify and seek knowledge so that one may better follow the deen; such seeking of the Knowledge of Truth is absolutely encouraged in Islam

 

Your Statement: But i found that when i went for hajj, i couldnt do that, and i got very frustrated because i have read that u should cry when u do dua (genuinely offcourse) because a dua which truly comes from your heart is accepted. but i couldnt cry when i was there. I did a few times but not enough.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:

And if My servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning Me, tell them that I am quite near to them. I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!

 

Nu'man b. Bashir reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Verily supplication is worship."

Narrated by Ahmad and Sunan.

Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."

Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban.

 

Abdallah b. 'Umar reported that the Prophet (saws) said, "Hearts are like vessels, some more attentive and capacious than others. When you supplicate Allah you should be certain of being answered, and know that Allah does not answer a supplication that comes from a careless and inattentive heart."

Narrated by Ahmad

 

Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, rest absolutely assured that the Blessed Lord is quite near to each of His believing and repentant slaves, and He Hears and responds to each and every supplication of His believing slaves.

 

Your Statement: but i couldnt cry when i was there. I did a few times but not enough.

Beloved Sister, it is only natural that when there are so many people around you during Hajj, and when so many things are going on around you.it is difficult to maintain ones concentration and sustain the exact same condition of ones heart when one remembers, glorifies, praises, or supplicates their Lord Most Gracious in absolute seclusion. Beloved Sister in Islam, know with absolute conviction that the tears that flood ones eyes in the remembrance of Allah when one is in solitude or seclusion are much more meritorious in the Sight of Allah than the tears that are shed in public! Such is the determined reward of those who shed tears in the remembrance of Allah in solitude that they are listed as one amongst the seven kinds of people who have been promised the Shade of the Lord on a Day when there will be absolutely no shade except His Blessed Shade!

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 2.504 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "Seven people will be shaded by Allah under His Shade on the Day when there will be no shade except His. They are:

(1) a just ruler;

(2) a young man who has been brought up in the worship of Allah, (i.e. worship Allah (Alone) sincerely from his childhood),

(3) a man whose heart is attached to the mosque (who offers the five compulsory congregational prayers in the mosque);


(4) two persons who love each other only for Allah's sake and they meet and part in Allah's Cause only;

(5) a man who refuses the call of a charming woman of noble birth for an illegal sexual intercourse with her and says: I am afraid of Allah;

(6) a person who practices charity so secretly that his left hand does not know what his right hand has given (i.e. nobody knows how much he has given in charity).

(7) a person who remembers Allah in seclusion and his eyes get flooded with tears."

 

It is also for the same precise reason that the worship done in the last third of the night, when most of mankind are asleep.and one forsakes the comfort of their bed and remembers their Lord Most High in solitude and in seclusion has so much worth in the Sight of The Lord Most Gracious.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.586 Narrated by Abu Huraira

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Every night when it is the last third of the night, our Lord, the Superior, the Blessed, descends to the nearest heaven and says: Is there anyone to invoke Me that I may respond to his invocation? Is there anyone to ask Me so that I may grant him his request? Is there anyone asking My forgiveness so that I may forgive him?"

 

Thus my beloved sister, neither fear nor despair that your tears deserted you in the crowds during the Hajj..but start fearing when your tears desert you when you are in solitude remembering, praising, glorifying and seeking forgiveness from your Lord Most Gracious.

 

Your Statement: it was all so surreal that it felt like i wasnt really there or this wasnt all true. i used to keep telling myself "u are looking at the Kaaba, you are in the most blessed places of all" but a lot of the time i couldnt apprehend that it was all tru. it was like a dream. Was this right? i mean i have fulfilled all the obligations of hajj and like i said i had the time of my life but these couple of things have really disturbed me.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumar verse 23:

23 Allah has revealed (from time to time) the most beautiful message in the form of a Book consistent with itself (yet) repeating (its teaching in various aspects): the skins of those who fear their Lord tremble thereat; then their skins and their hearts do soften to the celebration of Allah's praises. Such is the guidance of Allah: He guides therewith whom He pleases but such as Allah leaves to stray can have none to guide.

 

Dear and beloved Sister, whenever one who truly fears and loves Allah is confronted by any of the manifest Signs of their Lord Most High, be it His Divine Revelations, be it being in the presence of His Sacred House, or be it one amongst His Divine Decrees or Decisions, etc..it is nothing but the extension of ones true belief and faith in their Lord that their skins tremble at the fear of their Lord, and their skins and their hearts soften to the Celebration of their Lords Praises.

 

The condition of absolute awe and aduration that you have described when in the precincts of the Sacred Mosque is not unlike the condition of any true, believing, and repentant slave of the Lord Most High, Most Supreme. May Allah Subhanah accept and increase your awe and adoration of Him and His Manifest Signs, and bestow upon you the steadfastness to maintain this awe of Him and His Signs till He Decrees to call you back unto Him. Ameen.

 

Your Statement.but these couple of things have really disturbed me.

Beloved Sister in Islam, rather than letting the tears that deserted you in public or your state of awe when in the Sacred House disturb you..praise and be grateful to your Lord Who has given you the eyes that shed tears in solitude, and given you the skin and the heart that trembles when you see one of His Manifest Signs!

 

It is those who shed no tears in the remembrance of their Lord, and it is those who feel nothing in their skins and their hearts when confronted with a manifest Sign of their Lord that should feel disturbed at their sorry state!

 

Your condition which you have described is no more than a confirmation and extension of your fear, faith, trust, and belief in your Lord..thus beloved sister, in total and absolute humility and fear be absolutely grateful for the gifts your Lord has bestowed upon you, and beseech and implore Him to increase this superb condition of your heart.

 

Your Question: I dont wear a hijab and since coming back from hajj i have been driving myself crazy, literally mad because half of me wants to wear the hijaab desperately, and i feel out of place if i go somewhere without my head covered, even when everyone else is also a non hijabi or a non muslim, it makes me feel filthy. but then at the same time really superficial things stop me from wearing it. things like on my wedding day i wont be able to take it off and stupid things like that, and i feel so ashamed of myself. i dont know what to do brother and this is causing me a lot of greif. please help me, tell me what i should do, i am constantly fighting myself and i fear i will go mad soon enough.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Al Ahzaab verse 59:

O Prophet! Tell your wives and daughters, and the women of the believers, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons. It is expected that they will be recognized and that they will not be molested. And Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah An-Noor verse 31:

And O Prophet, enjoin the believing women to restrain their gaze and guard their private parts and not to display their adornment except that which is displayed of itself (their face and hands), and to draw their veils over their bosoms and not to display their adornment except before their husbands, their fathers, the fathers of their husbands, their sons and the sons of their husbands, their brothers, their brothers sons, their sisters sons, their female associates, and those in their possession and male attendants incapable of sexual desire, and those boys who have not yet attained knowledge of sexual matters. Also forbid them to stamp their feet on the ground lest their hidden ornaments should be displayed.

 

Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, know with absolute conviction that it is Allah Subhanah, the Lord of the Universe and everything that exists in it, Who has Commanded and made it absolutely obligatory for every believing woman, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, that she should honor the jilbaab.

 

Your Statement: but then at the same time really superficial things stop me from wearing it. things like on my wedding day i wont be able to take it off and stupid things like that, and i feel so ashamed of myself. i dont know what to do brother and this is causing me a lot of greif. please help me, tell me what i should do, i am constantly fighting myself and i fear i will go mad soon enough.

Dear and beloved Sister, whenever one wishes to obey the Commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws) it is only expected that the accursed enemy of man, the accursed and rejected Shaytaan, will come to them and whisper all kinds of superficial fears into their hearts in his effort to take them away from the guidance and commands of their Lord; for he (the Shaytaan) has vowed to misguide man with his feeble, fair-seeming talk and take as many amongst mankind as possible towards the transgression and disobedience of Allah Subhanah.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verses 26-30:

26 O ye children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover your shame as well as to be an adornment to you, but the raiment of righteousness that is the best. Such are among the Signs of Allah that they may receive admonition!

27 O ye children of Adam! Let not the Shaytaan seduce you in the same manner as he got your parents (Adam and Hawwa) out of the garden stripping them of their raiment to expose their shame: for he and his tribe watch you from a position where ye cannot see them: We have made the Shayaateen friends (only) to those without faith.

28 When they do aught that is shameful they say: "We found our fathers doing so"; and "Allah commanded us thus": Say: "Nay!!! Allah never commands what is shameful: do ye say of Allah what ye know not?"

29 Say: "My Lord hath commanded justice; and that ye set your whole selves (to him) at every time and place of prayer, and call upon Him making your devotion sincere as in His Sight: such as He created you in the beginning so shall ye return."

30 Some He hath guided: others have (by their choice) deserved the loss of their way: in that they took the Shaytaan in preference to Allah for their friends and protectors, and think that they receive guidance.

 

Dear and beloved sister in Islam, recognize and totally reject the evil whisperings and the false fears the accursed and rejected Shaytaan puts into your heart whenever you are about to fulfill your obligations to your Lord..keep your unconditional trust and faith in the guidance of your Lord and His Messenger (saws) alone..and strive to fulfill each and every one of your duties and obligations in Islam..regardless of whether any in creation appreciates it or detests it!

 

As long as the deed you are about to do is Pleasing to your Lord, dont even give an iota of a care or thought if all of mankind were to detest it..if indeed your goal is to earn the Pleasure, Good Will, and Forgiveness of your Lord Most High.

 

Your Question: is there hadith by the prohet (saw) in which he encourages mixed race marriages between muslims? i was watching a program the other day in which it was said that the prophet (saw) encouraged mixed marriages because it was good for the unity of the ummah. but then again i have heard that the prophet didnt encourage it because difference of cultures can be the cause of a divorce.

Dear and beloved Sister, to the best of our knowledge we have not come across any authentic and established narration of the Prophet (saws) whereby he either encouraged or discouraged the believers to seek inter-racial marriages.

 

Allah and His Messenger (saws) have given several guidances when seeking a spouse in marriage, but almost all of them are to do with ones religion, character, and righteousness rather than ones race, or nationality, or color, or status, etc.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3:

3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans marry women of your choice two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:

5 This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'

 

The Messenger of Allah (saws) himself married women from amongst his tribe (the Quraysh) and also from other races like Hadrat Safiyyah who was formally a Jew, or Hadrat Jawaheriyyah who was from the tribe of Banu Mustaliq. What Islam guides when seeking a spouse is that paramount importance should be given to ones state of religion and character rather than frivolous and petty issues like race, color, etc.

 

Your Question: Some people say that people like mother theresa, princess diana and other very noble persons wont go to heaven because thet arent muslims. is that tru? will allah disregard all the other good things they have done in their life because they didnt accept islam? what about people like michael mansfield the QC who fights for muslims and people like George Galloway and other non muslims who help muslims? what will be of them?

In light of the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, there are two types of rights due from every individual in creation:

1. Rights that are due to ones Creator

2. Rights that are due to The Creators creation

 

Although both rights are due and very important, and each will have its due accounting on that Inevitable Day; the Creator has Decreed that the Rights that are due to Him will always supercede the rights that are due to His creation!

 

The Biggest Right due to the Creator is that He is worshipped Alone, and none is associated as a partner with Him. The one who does worship or invoke others with Allah Subhanah has compromised on giving the One All-Important Right to the One and Only Creator, and is thus guilty of the heinous abomination of shirk in the sight of the All Mighty.

 

The All Knowing, All Wise Lord has declared the abomination of shirk (associating others with Allah Subhanah) as the single biggest sin in the annuls of sins; and has declared that the one who dies in the state of shirk will never ever be forgiven in His Court of Supreme Justice!

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 72:

Whoever commits shirk (invoking anything with Allah), Allah shall forbid for him Paradise, and Hell shall be his abode. And for such wrong doers there will be no one to help.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumar verse 65-66:

If you commit shirk all your works will be rendered vain and you will be among the losers. Therefore, you should worship Allah Alone, and be among His grateful servants.

 

Only after the Rights due to Allah Subhanah, although very important in the Sight of the Creator but a distant second, comes the huqooq ul-ibaad or rights due to His slaves or His creation! Every person will be questioned regarding his deeds and his due rights on the Day of Judgment; and the Lord Most High Most Just Alone will Decide who amongst mankind deserves His Mercy and Grace and who amongst them brought upon themselves His Wrath and His Anger.

 

Dear and Beloved Sister, it is not for us who have absolutely no knowledge of what will become of ourselves and our loved ones in the Hereafter to judge and decide what will become of individuals like Mother Teresa, Princess Diana, etc. Allah Subhanah, our Lord and Creator is the Supreme Master and Judge of the Day of Judgment, and He Alone Will Decide who deserves His Mercy and who deserves His Wrath and Anger; but one thing is absolutely sure.our Lord Creator is indeed the All-Just and He will not do injustice upon any in His creation.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 160:

160 He that doeth good shall have ten times as much to his credit: he that doeth evil shall only be recompensed according to his evil. No wrong shall be done unto (any of) them.

 

The Lord Most High Most Just Alone will decide what weight He assigns to each good and each evil done by mankind; and the Decree of the Lord Most Merciful is that any that did good will receive a ten-fold reward for their good deeds, and any evil they did will only be recompensed according to that evil; and no individual on that Tumultuous Day will be wronged in the least.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan


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