I met my husband two years before. And after sometime we commited the most dirty sin of all.
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Dear Brother of Islam,
I have read some questions and answers from this part. and i got soo many answers for the questions that botherd me for soo long. But this particular part confused me..
I met my husband two years before. And after sometime we commited the most dirty sin of all. after it happened i did feel guilty and asked for Allah`s forgivness. But again it happened a lot.. i was so ashamed and felt guilty for it, i no longer has the heart to ask for forgivness as i felt that i might unintentionally mock allah`s mercifullness. but i still have the regret in my heart and is intending to correct my sins. we are married now.
my confusion is after we two commited zina, arent we allowed to marry?
we did not marry to make our s*x life legal but bacause we love each other and want to have a life and children. We made the mistake because we loved each other soo much. and before we made the mistake we were planing to marry.
could you please advise me is our marriage legal under the circumstances?
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Marriage lawful after zina
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Your Statement: But again it happened a lot.. i was so ashamed and felt guilty for it, i no longer has the heart to ask for forgivness as i felt that i might unintentionally mock allah`s mercifullness. but i still have the regret in my heart and is intending to correct my sins.
Dear and beloved sister in Islam, whatever deeds one might have done in ones past, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer.
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
- Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of death.
- Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, Peace to you; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Dear and beloved sister, never never ever despair of the magnitude and vastness of the Mercy of your Lord Most Merciful. Regardless of how many times one might have transgressed the boundaries of their Lord in their ignorance, if one is sincerely repentant at ones past deeds, turns back to their Lord seeking forgiveness, believes and amends their conduct thereafter; it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Your Question: my confusion is after we two commited zina, arent we allowed to marry? could you please advise me is our marriage legal under the circumstances?
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah accepts a servant's repentance till he gives up his spirit in death."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2339 Narrated by Abu Sa'id
Allah's Messenger (saws) said that the Shaytaan said, "By Thy Might, my Lord, I shall continue to lead Thy servants astray as long as their spirits are in their bodies." The Lord, Who is Great and Glorious, replied, "By My Might, Glory and Exalted Station, I shall continue to pardon them as long as they ask My forgiveness."
Hadith Qudsi 34
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said that Allah Subhanah, High and Exalted He is, says: O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great at it.
Dear and beloved sister in Islam, never never ever despair of the Mercy of your Lord Most Gracious Most Merciful. Regardless of what or how many sins one might have committed in ones past, if one turns back to their Lord seeking sincere forgiveness, their Lord will accept their repentance and wipe out all their sins from their Book of Records. Such is the vastness and magnitude of the Mercy of the One Who, without an iota of a doubt, is the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy.
If all the legal conditions of an Islamic marriage (proposal and acceptance, determination of mehr, availability of two witnesses to the marriage contract, consent of the wali of the bride, etc.) were met at the time of your nikaah with your husband, rest absolutely assured that your marriage is absolutely legal, lawful, and valid in the Sight of Shariah Law, of the believers, and above all, in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
For all the innumerable Favors and Mercies of the Lord Most Gracious on His believing and repentant slaves, it only befits and behoves righteousness that the true slave-servant of the Lord commits himself to the absolute submission and obedience of his Lord until death separates his body from his soul.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,