How can i escape from doing bad things means when im free i watch bad movies how can i avoid that ?
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1. my first question is that how can i escape from doing bad things means when
im free i watch bad movies how can i avoid that ?
2.masturbing is haram???? if haram how can i avoid that?
3. making a girlfriend without any sexual
relationship allowed in islam or not
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How to avoid masturbation
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Q-1A: my first
question is that how can i escape from doing bad things
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 28:
28 ….. for man was created weak.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 12 Surah
Yusuf verse 53:
53 (
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6778 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4726 Narrated by
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘When
Allah created
Beloved brother in Islam, it is the very nature of mankind
that he is created weak and a part of his soul always incites him towards evil
and bad deeds; and it is this constant struggle to control and overcome this
constant incitement of his soul towards evil and bad deeds is the test and
trial that the Lord Most High has involved man in!
The ones who choose to fear Allah, control their souls
from illegal temptations and lower
desires, and of their own choice submit their will to the Will of their Lord,
will pass the test ordained by their Lord; and the ones who choose to run after
illegal temptations, and refuse to submit their will to the Will of their
Creator will miserably fail their ordained test of life.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 79 Surah
Naziat verses 34-41:
34 Therefore when there comes the Great Overwhelming (Event, ie: The
Day of Judgment!)
35 The Day when Man shall remember (all)
that he strove for
36 And Hell-Fire shall be placed in full
view for (all) to see
37 Then for such as had transgressed all
bounds
38 And had preferred the life of this world
39 Their Abode will be Hell-Fire;
40 And for such as had entertained the fear of standing before their
Lord's (tribunal) and had restrained (their) soul from Lower Desires
41 Their Abode will be the Garden.
The one and only thing that when developed and nourished
with care, which will help one abstain from being a slave to his temptations
and evil deeds, and inspire one towards good deeds and the Mercy and Rewards of
the Lord Most Merciful is what is known in Quranic terms as ‘taqwa’.
To develop ‘taqwa’ or ‘fear’ of Allah’, the absolute first
thing one needs to do is to recognize who exactly is his Lord and Creator, why
has He created everything in existence, why has He created you on this earth,
what deeds are Pleasing to Him, what deeds bring about His Wrath and Anger,
what exactly are His Rewards promised for His righteous and obedient slaves,
and what punishments await those who deny and disobey Him?
And the absolute best way to recognize one’s Lord Creator
and the substance of one’s short test of life in this transient world is to
read, understand, obey, follow and completely submit to the Blessed and Noble
Message revealed for our guidance by our Lord Most Merciful, Most
Gracious.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verses 2-5”
2 This (Quran) is the Book; in
it is guidance sure without doubt to those who have ‘taqwa’.
This state of consciousness of standing in the Presence of
the Majestic and Supreme Lord One Inevitable Day is what Allah calls ‘taqwa’ or
piety in His Quran; and it is this ‘taqwa’ alone which can inspire one towards
doing deeds that would earn him the the Eternal Pleasure and Good Will of the
Lord, and it is this same ‘taqwa’ which will inspire one to abstain from doing
anything which would bring about His Unbearable Wrath and Anger.
Taqwa means to abstain from doing anything that would
bring about the Wrath and Displeasure of the Lord All-Mighty; and to do deeds
of righteousness which are commanded by Allah and His Messenger (saws). Taqwa is to live every moment of ones life
with the solemn belief that One Inevitable Day every soul will be brought forth
in the Presence of the Majestic Lord to give a full accounting of on his
deeds. Taqwa is to determine before
doing anything whether the Lord Most Merciful will be Pleased or Dis-pleased
with the deed; if one determines that the Lord will be pleased with the deed,
he must do it wholeheartedly; and if one determines that the deed would bring
about the displeasure and Wrath of Allah Subhanah, he must immediately abstain
from it. Taqwa is to live every moment
of one’s life consciously striving to do deeds which would earn him the Pleasure
and Good Will of the Lord Most Merciful, and abstain from doing deeds which
would bring about His displeasure and Wrath.
If one studies the Glorious Quran, one would realize that
more often than not, wherever Allah Subhanah Promises His slaves the
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 133:
133 Be quick in the race for forgiveness from
your Lord and for a Garden whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens
and of the earth; prepared for the ‘Muttaqeen’ (those who have
‘taqwa’).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 50 Surah
Qaaf verses 31-33:
31 And the Garden will be brought nigh to
the ‘Muttaqeen’, no more a thing distant.
32 (A voice will say:) "This is what
was promised for you, for everyone who turned (to Allah) in sincere repentance
who kept (his law).
33 "Who feared (Allah) Most Gracious
unseen and brought a heart turned in devotion (to Him):
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 52 Surah
Tur verses 17-18:
17 As to the ‘Muttaqeen’ they will be in Gardens and in
Happiness
18 Enjoying the (Bliss) which their Lord
hath bestowed on them and their Lord shall deliver them from the Penalty of the
Fire.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 68 Surah
Qalam verse 34:
34 Verily for the ‘Muttaqeen’
are Gardens of Delight in the Presence of their Lord.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 16 Surah
Nahl verse 31:
31 Gardens of Eternity which they will
enter: beneath them flow (pleasant) rivers: they will have therein all that
they wish: thus doth Allah reward the ‘Muttaqeen’
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqan verses 15-16:
15 Say: "Is that (fire) better or the
eternal Gardens promised to the ‘Muttaqeen’? For them that is a
reward as well as a goal (of attainment).
16 For them there will be therein all that
they wish for: they will dwell (there) for aye: a promise to be prayed for from
thy Lord."
Thus, in conclusion, my dear and beloved brother in Islam,
I remind you and I remind myself, the absolute best way to bring about his
reformation in our hearts is to get close to the Remembrance of our Lord Who
Created us; and the best way to Remember our Lord is to read, understand, obey,
follow and completely submit ourselves to His Glorious Message which He Himself
revealed for our guidance, The One and Only Glorious and Noble Quran!
It is only and only this ‘taqwa’ or the constant
remembrance and fear of the standing in the Lord’s Tribunal on an Inevitable
Day can inspire man towards abstention of evil and inspire man to do good
deeds!
Q-1B: how can i
escape from doing bad things means when im free i watch bad movies how can i
avoid that ?
My dear and beloved brother in Islam, nothing, and I reiterate nothing in this
universe can genuinely and continuously stop one from doing any evil deed other
than ‘taqwa’ - the constant remembrance and fear of Allah Subhanah.
Q-2: masturbing is
haram???? if haram how can i avoid that?
The act of masturbation is prohibited in Islam and a sin
in the sight of Allah Subhanah; thus the believers must absolutely abstain from
this evil and heinous act.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter24 Surah
Noor verse 30:
O Prophet,
enjoin the believing men to restrain their gaze, and guard their private parts. This is a more righteous way for them. Allah has knowledge of whatever they
do.
Allah has commanded the believers to lower their
gaze, and guard their chastity. This is a more righteous way for them. The act of ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery)
is a great sin in Islam. The
Prophet(saws) warned the believers against committing ‘zina’ of the eyes, ‘zina’ of the feet, ‘zina’ of the hands, etc. If one’s eyes are constantly watching
sexual movies, magazines, etc. it would
be considered ‘zina’ of the eyes. If
one goes to the place to commit ‘zina’ or to the place of sexual movies,
magazines, etc., it would be considered ‘zina’ of the feet. Similarly,
the act of masturbation, could be
considered a ‘zina’ of the eyes, or hands, etc.
It is a sin and an evil act, and
must be avoided by the believers.
Q-2B: how can i
avoid that?
We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were
young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O
young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him
lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing
illegal sexual intercourse, etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should
fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Thus if one is unable to control his sexual desire, he should get married, rather than get involved in committing sins
like masturbation and ‘zina’
(fornication or adultery). And if one
is unable to marry, he should fast, as the Messenger of Allah (saws) says, that
fasting reduces the person’s sexual desire,
and thus help the believer to stay away from committing sin.
‘Fahesha’ or indecency is one of
the strongest weapons of the accursed enemy of man, the Shaitaan; who has sworn
to mislead and misguide mankind from the Straight Path of Allah Subhanah.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 268:
The Shaitaan threatens you with poverty and
prompts you to adopt indecency (or acts of shamelessness). Allah promises you His Forgiveness and
Bounties, and Allah cares for all, and He knows all things.
The only thing that can stop one from acts of indecency,
or intentionally disobeying any command of Allah and His Messenger (saws); is the constant fear and consciousness that
One Inevitable Day, everyone will be brought forth in the Presence of the
All-Mighty Lord to give a full accounting of one’s deeds.
The first thing one needs to do, when he realizes that he has disobeyed any
command of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
is to immediately turn to the Merciful Lord and seek His Forgiveness and
Pardon, and make a solemn covenant that
he will not repeat the mistake again.
When Shaitaan again tries to prompt the person to disobey the Merciful,
the believers must immediately realize the play of Shaitaan, seek refuge in
Allah from the accursed Shaitaan, remember the covenant he has made with His
Lord, and abstain from doing any deed that will bring about the Wrath and Anger
of Allah Subhanah.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verses 200-201:
200 If a suggestion from Shaitaan assail thy (mind), seek refuge with
Allah; for He Heareth and Knoweth (all things).
201 Those who fear Allah, when a thought of evil from Shaitaan assaults
them, bring Allah to remembrance; when lo! they see (aright)!
As soon as one feels the desire, or the avowed enemy of man, the Shaitaan suggests the person to transgress any of the boundaries of Allah Subhanah; the believers should immediately seek the refuge and protection of the All-Mighty Lord from the accursed Shaitaan by saying: “Aoodobillahe minas Shaitaan ar rajeem”. If the person is sincere in seeking refuge and protection, Allah Subhanah will protect him from the assaults of Shaitaan.
Some other things the believers may
do on such a stage is do the ‘wudu’, offer prayers, or recite the 113th
and 114th Surahs of the Quran (Surah Falaq and Surah Naas) and seek
protection from the accursed Shaitaan.
The long-term remedy for keeping
the Shaitaan at bay, is to constantly remember Allah Subhanah, seek and stay in
the company of the righteous, recite the Quran, read good Islamic Books, listen
to good Islamic cassettes and lectures, and strive to stay away from being in
solitude.
If one is constantly in the face
of non-mehram women, or if one regularly watches commercial television and
movies, or regularly reads commercial
magazines, etc. where ill-clad women are constantly portrayed; there is a greater chance the person will be
swayed by the suggestions of Shaitaan towards ‘fahisah’ and indecency. If one strives to abstain from these devices
of Shaitaan, and makes efforts to remain
close to the Remembrance and Guidance of Allah Subhanah, he will be successful
in muting the ploys of the Shaitaan.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 27:
O ye children of
Q-3: making a
girlfriend without any sexual relationship allowed in islam or not
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man
is alone with a (non-mehram) woman, the Shaytaan makes a third."
Contrary to popular belief, Islam guides that there is
absolutely no such thing as a platonic (non-sexual) relationship between a man
and a woman who are non-mehrams.
Developing any kind of casual relationship with a non-mehram member of
the opposite sex is absolutely prohibited in Islam and a sin in the Sight of
Allah Subhanah.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in
Islam,
Burhan