What do u do wen u dont want to marry the person ur parents chose for u???
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what do u do wen u
dont want to marry the person
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Marriage by Choice
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Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.98 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A virgin should not be married till she is asked for her consent; and the matron should not be married till she is asked whether she agrees to marry or not." It was asked, "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! How will she (the virgin because of her shyness) express her consent?" He (saws) said, "By keeping silent."
Beloved Sister, one of the absolutely obligatory conditions of marriage in Islam is the consent of the woman, regardless of whether she is a virgin or a matron (one who has been married before).
Thus, if for any reason, the believing woman does not approve of a proposal or choice of her parents, she has a God-given right to politely and humbly explain her refusal to her parents and guardians, and the parents and guardians must respect and honor this right which The Lord Creator has bestowed on the believing woman.
The believing woman who wishes to refuse a proposal brought forth by her parents/guardians, must remain within the prescribed boundaries of her Lord and be absolutely humble, polite, respectful, and courteous to her parents/guardians in conveying her refusal. Under absolutely no circumstances should she get abusive, disrespectful, offensive, impolite or ill-mannered towards her parents in conveying her refusal; but instead try with absolute humility and politeness to explain her refusal to them.
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